Please Help Me?

Question

okay i am 16 and my bf is 17 not so unusual but recently my bf always wants sex so why ? also all my friends are calling me a s l u t or a whore cuz me and my bf and some friends were palying truth or dare and my bf darred me to make out with this really hot guy who i liked before me and my bf dated and now they all call me a s l u t and a whore so how can i get them to stop ? also is it wrong for me to date my bf who is 17 ? and 1 last question why is my bf obssessing with getting in my pants again and again ?
PLEASE HELP ME

i have one more question why does my bf say that some times he gets so hard that it hurts ? you dont half to answer this question if you dont want to

the reason he darred me is cuz he was i know this is illegal but drinking not alot though and he hasnt drank since

PLEASE HELP ME I REALLY NEED HELP

I AM NOT BREAKING UP WITH HIM SO DONT BOTHER TELLING ME TO

PLEASE HELP ME

me and my bf are both irish and italian and no i didnt have sex on a dare i made out on a dare and neither of us are black and nothing is wrong with black people but i just a more atracted to white men

Answer 1

What your bf is telling you to do is perfectly normal for his age. You both have raging hormones and he wants to experiment with different types of sex. Watching is one of them. Having sex often is another. However, don't mistake this for love, because it is not. Sex and love are two separate things and it sounds to me like you bf is so obsessed with sex, he doesn't care about your feelings. That tells me he doesn't love you. He only loves himself.

I'm sorry to break the sad news to you, but if I were you, I'd put my foot down and stop this charade. He's using you for his own pleasure. That is why you are not enjoying it. Why don't you turn the tables on him and ask him to perform for you? Ask him to masturbate in front of you. Go on, do it...all the way. And, don't take your eyes off of him for a second. Watch him and make him feel uncomfortable. In fact, get a video camera and record him doing it.

See what he says. Ask him if he likes being made a spectacle of the way he's been making of you. Tell him you're his girlfriend, not his whore and the next time he asks you to perform some sexual favor that you don't feel like doing, tell him that you're going to charge him for it, because that's what he's been doing, treating you like a whore.

My bet is that it will stop.

Answer 2

I don't think it's right for them to call you names, ignore it or let them know you're not. The best way to let them know you're not? Stop making out with other people besides the person you're dating! Truth or Dare is one of the dumbest and most dangerous games ever thought up. Sexual acts are almost always the dares, and the substance of the truth questions. Why not call it 'sex or more sex'? I would seriously rethink dating this guy if he actually ASKED you to kiss someone else. His age isn't a problem, HE is the problem! As are you making problems for yourself. Why does he want in your pants all the time? Because you're letting him! Do you realize you are putting yourself at risk for unplanned pregnancy and STDs? And your actions already have you set up so that if you did get pregnant, your bf would probably say, "how do I know it's mine? Maybe it's that other guy's"

You're doing things right now that require more maturity and responsibility than any teenager has. Why not enjoy being young without the risks sex brings? Keep sex in marriage where it belongs. Then those issues won't be issues anymore. And didn't you find it the least bit....WEIRD your guy WANTED to see you kiss someone else? Doesn't that tell you just maybe he doesn't care enough about you to be dating you? Or sleeping with you?

Answer 3

First thing first always wear protection. Now he's 17 he's a male they always want sex he's coming to his sexual peak it's totally normal, but yes hard to understand as a female. As for your friends ask them if they have sex does it make them a slut? And everyone makes mistakes no one needs their nose rubbed in it. Being called a slut is unfortuante but it's they way it is, I also was called one at 16 after people heard I was having sex with my bf. Try to ignore it and hold your head high, it's your life! You're 16 he's 17 that's no big age gape ,if you're happy enjoy eachother. Just make sure if you're not giving it up when he wants that he's not going else where for it. Relationships are about meeting eachother's needs with love and respect. Hope I answered your questions well enough that you have some peace about these issues.

Answer 4

R u crazy?!?!! Y would u stay w/someone who dares u to make out w/another guy, why he's there. What's up w/that?? And ur friends...well that's what they're not, if they were they wouldn't judge, nor give u such a hard time. Sex is Sex, Pu$$y is Pu$$y, for most guys, esp. ur age, honey they just looking to bust a nut, and when u stop putting out he's going to b gone. I think the best they for u is to brake up w/him, stop allowing him to use to and prove that u do still have self-respect, and those ppl u call "Friends", GET RID OF EM, they anit ur friend. Dear lord honey go some balls, stand up for urself

Answer 5

first of all highschool sucks butt and people will call you a slut. It's not fair but that's how it works. Don't play into their drama and ignore it all and secondly the best advice i got when i was a teenager was "just because you're dating someone doesn't mean you have to have sex with them." You are you're own person and you can totally get into it hot and heavy and decide that you don't wanna go all the way. A guy will probably get pissed at you but honestly if he's gonna get mad at you over something that important to you then he's a vagina. and having sex should be important to you. never NEVER let it become something non-chalant. Sex is something you do with someone who thinks it's just as important as you do.

Answer 6

1) Because he is 17 sweetie and it comes with the territory.

2) Well they all know that you made out with this guy right? I doubt there is much you can do about it really just let it run its course. Ignore them when they say it and don't play into that game.

3)No its not wrong to date a boy who is only a year older than you are.

4) He wants to possess you.

Answer 7

first of all you're not married STRIKE ONE. And in God's eye's you're a whore. Thats in the Bible babe. Next, You say you had sex with another guy on a dare??? If that ain't being a whore I dont know what is. You're just asking for AIDS aren't you? Do you know their histories? Do you know whom they've been with or not been with? And if he's black, I'm saying IF, you're really asking for it. 67% of black males in the usa are HIV.
There's nothing wrong with you dating a guy a year apart, unless of course he or you are 18 and the other person is 17, and even then it isn't wrong as long as you dont have sex, and your parents know about it. As far as him wanting in your pants again and again, I'd take that as a compliment, though I'd advise you not to do it. Its only good in the sense that the guy finds you attractive, I' know lots of girls, I think they need to wear flags over their faces.

Answer 8

I dont base sexualy maturity on age. Its just a thing about are you mature enough mentally to handle the consiquinces of having sex. And by your quistions and responces I dont believe you are. You should keep your pants on a few more years grow up and then try again when you understand the whole aspect of having sex. Its not just enjoyment it can be hell take it from someone who became a parent at the age of 17.

Answer 9

your boyfriend sounds like a big jerk, boyfriend dont dare you to make out with another guy in front of people of alone. He wants sex because he is 17, and the reason he says he hurts down there is because he has a hard on, and is ready to have sex he is horney and you are the bait!!!!!!!!!. you better brake up with him soon. he dosnt care about you at all. all he carres about is his self, as far ss every one calling you these names. you put yourself in that position and you need to prove to them that you are not that. tell them that you broke up with him cuz he was a dirtball and that you wish you would have never met him and that you wont do things like that anymore, if they are your friends they will understand, if not then the heck with them there not worth being your friends and the people you dont know that say that just say prove it im not that kind of person. meet new and better people.

Answer 10

if you are a virgin he wants to pop your cherry, and if your not then he might think your easy. boys that age think about sex all day and that all they think about, and about the other thing you should have more respect for yourself and do what feels right not what your bf tells you. Its not wrong he is only one yr older. if your going to have sex use protection, you dont want to end up pregnant or with an std, when he tells you they hurt its because they hurt (its called blue balls) but he is just trying to make u feel bad so you could ging in.