We have ben married for 8 years and dating for 2 years before that.I was skinny and cute size 5.we have had 2 kids since then and I have gained weight (size 12)Would you be angry or discusted?
2006-08-12 18:04:40 · 16 answers · asked by L.T. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry. I know I am not a man however, I had to put my two cents in......
For starters he should love you anyway. But how about you? How do you feel?
I know it is hard being a mommy and keeping up on ourselves but I have learned it is needed for yourself to get a little greedy with taking time for yourself...
I am sure your hubby gets his time... And a mom works her *** off. So make damn sure you get yours as well.
Make your self exercise even if you hate it... It will grow on you and once you see it not only helps your outer qualities but more importantly the inner qualities..
Do this for you not for your hubby... You deserve it...
Best wishes...... ♥
And remember that muscle weighs more than fat.. And inches matter more than pounds......
2006-08-12 18:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Princess ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 kids with my former husband and when i married the man i am with now i was a size 3 in the 2 years we have been togehter i have gained 20 lns and now wear some 5's and mostly 7's he doesn't say anything because there are alot of reasons for weight gain 1 im content now and 2 i no longer party all the time the drinking seemed to keep me skinner but my point being he should love you either way
2006-08-13 02:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size is only really relevant for health and longevity. My fiancee would be considered a "plus" size (something-teen size) and she when through 30 hours of labor and without ANY complaints, gave me a healthy boy. How could you ever really be angry with the woman you love so much over a little bit of weight?
Now if you had to tear down the side of the house, I'd be mad about the cost. But I'd be more concerned about the health a lot more than the looks of the person.
2006-08-13 01:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Average Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can guarantee your husband has gained weight also. Your husband can't walk on water, read peoples minds and is not perfect. A size 12 that's not a lot, i think you two need to decide if more kids are on the way, if so don't loose weight. If no, tell him you will loose as much weight as him, why should you do it alone. Its a proven fact if 2 or more people loose weight together, chances of success are more positive.
2006-08-13 01:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you, of course I'd be upset. If I wanted a big womn, I would have married one. Is it OK if I turn into an alcoholic after 8 years of marraige? Spend all my time and money at the bar? No, it isnt. Just because you have someone at home, doesnt mean you stop trying. You change some of the things you try for. I love that whole "I had children" line, women just eat that one up. You had kids, not cattle. Eat better food, exercise a bit. You will feel better and look better.
Everyone knows men are visually stimulated. We cant help it, we are that way by nature. It doesnt mean he will stop loving or divorce you, but why would you deprive him of the woman in his life looking hot? This is something you can do for him, that he is certain to appreciate.
Dont listen to these large bitter women on here telling you its OK to get huge just because they did. Or "he better love you, you had his kids". Well, guess what? Anyone can breed, but the special woman will make the extra effort (and vice-versa, but thats another subject).
Take my advice, lose the weight, and both of you will love it.
2006-08-13 01:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if he is any kind of man no he wouldn't weight gain is a given that comes with kids grated some woman leave the hospital looking just like they did b4 they got pregnant in the first place but unfortunately that is rare if he truly loved you when you were thin he should love you even more with a few extra pounds after all you gained them giving him the 2 best gifts any man could ever ask for
2006-08-13 01:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size 12 sounds sexy to me.
Especially after 2 kids.
I like em a little juicy. Plus it's normal to gain a little wieght after 8 years of marriage plus some kids.
You are sexy! Keep on smiling.
2006-08-13 01:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats funny, you are the size my husband would love for me to gain weight to be. I don't think men are ever happy with what they have, skinny or not.
2006-08-13 01:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back when I got married my wife was already a size 16; I thought to myself, if her tummy ever exceeded her bust (40D at the time), I would have a problem.
But, that never happened; she's a 42DD now (3 kids) and heavier, but still sexy - and she's three times hornier now than back then! :-)
2006-08-13 01:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for anyone to get angry if you have gained weight..(U may be looking more beautiful!! and attractive!!)
Check if there is any other reason..
2006-08-13 02:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by kulkarnidg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋