me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 almost 6 years.. he was gone for 21/2 years in jail. our relationship seems okay most of the time but lately all we do is fight. we broke up and he was very confussed why. he said he thought we were great we never fight and he tells people we are great. when people ask him when we are gettin married he says its like we are already married he calls me his wife tells people we are married..
i am like what the hell..i have been telling him the past 2months i am not happy in the relationship. we are far from getting or being married. he acts like everything is great.why is he not in the same relationship i am? how is it we are in 2 different places in our relationship and he doesn't see that whats up with that????
ooh ya we got back together he said he would listen and try to change yet to see it but i have hope
2006-08-12 17:58:33 · 12 answers · asked by crack_rock_84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was n dis exact same situation.....Ma boyfriend went to jail got out and i seemed not interested in him anymore....Well to make a long story short we broke up and got rite back together our relationship has been good ever since... Just give it sometime and take it slow
2006-08-12 18:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by is it real 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out sweetie and don't look back. After all this time, it's not going to change. If it does, it's going to be a temporary two week thing just to suffice you. You are waivering on that line of leave or stay...jump across it. This isn't what you want for the rest of your life and a marriage under these circumstances is doomed to fail before it even begins. You know this. He's putting on a front for everyone because he doesn't want people to know what is really going on and can't accept the fact that he's failed at something else. It's common amongst those who've been to jail and come out to face the world. It's like they live in fantasy land. Sit him down and set the record straight with him. If you have a hard time doing that, picture your life with him five years down the road? Under these circumstances, does it look promising? You know what you have to do....go do it.
2006-08-13 01:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship,is going through a change,& sometimes like when your married, its called, the 7 year itch. All relationships, change after time goes by. You need to just get him to sit down with you, & let him know how your feelings, are changing, & how its making you feel, about you & him as a couple, & see if that jolt's him into a better change for the best. You both have shared a long time together, & deserve a good disccusion, to save what you have together. Before you end up going your seperate ways.
2006-08-13 01:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never change. Its time to drop the act of a miracle ready to happen, it will happen alright, in your dreams. Jail, he will be in and out of it for the rest of his life, if he doesn't get a career. Time to leave, take a train to the other side of the country and start over.
2006-08-13 01:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not having a problem with the relationship, he has everything he needs. He is happy. Why should he change? In jail? come on, is this what you want?
2006-08-13 01:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mtn dweller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take time out for you. Ask yourself! What do I want? Am I the person I want to be. Love yourself first. The problem with so many relationships, is that we don't know who we are. Sometimes others tell us who we are, and we accept it. If you are not who he says you are, then you need to find you.
2006-08-13 01:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ucan2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have hope but if it doesn't change get out and stay out. Some men just don't 'get it' and they never will, trying to deal with them is like beating your head off a brick wall.
2006-08-13 02:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will be Guys?well simple hun!the reason of no committment yet? he is comfortable just the way it is!many say,afraid of getting married?yeah!right!excuses,excuses.excuses!Why?pay for a cow!and you are getting the milk for free?They tend to put on a good show mostly!and i don,t see how you,ve stuck with his butt that long!guess?I love him!(smile)nothin wrong with that,though you allow him to do just what he does,most parts!and will circle back and say just what we desire to hear,Listen!try to change!get my act together,alot more lies,especially(difference)if you see that no change has been made,so we except his crap still,cause i have hope!not sayin he don,t have feelings for you!just not like you desire for them to be!Hun!time to wake up and smell the coffee!If the house ain,t happy and he knows it isn,t and haven,t made changes to make it better,most for you!girl he don,t give a sh-t,bout your feelings or you heart?so what do we do,being that its hard for some to let it go!stand strong for self for a change,you deserve better,and one that respects how you feel,not for what you got in between your legs,do you feel me?Start loving you girl!cause he deffinatly isn,t doing it the right way!that,hope stuff,cute if made the changes,at least try!but shoots it,s plaine as day before your eyes,this guy isn,t right!prob!knowing he got you whipped?know you feel for as you do!?right where he wants you!not a good relationship at all.You got Hope,well,Hope for a better man.If looks like a duck!sounds like a duck!then what?it,s a duck!you can,t continue to hold hope for one that isn,t ready to change?so,girl!you do it for self,let it go,and if comes back correct!or willing to change work with it if choose!?or let it go and move on!stay sweet!wish you luck,"Mom!didn,t raise a fool?
2006-08-13 01:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, if you are both into crack pipes, it might work, but it just one of you is, then you're in big trouble. Haven't you ever watched Chris Rock?
2006-08-13 01:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move On!! He is a total wast of Time!!
2006-08-13 01:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋