whats wrong when you are making love to your husband and you feel no connection?

Question

he doesnt seem to be into it like i am

Answer 1

as someone else answered could be stress, tired from work,lack of enthusiasm could just be boredom with same old sexual postion,or if someone doesnt have sex with their partner then all of a sudden get to perform the act may have issues with the fact that there is such a "dry spell" between activities they may have a very defineable lack of interest because of a feeling of neglect to their needs prior to. or it could be you should just talk to him about it but dont slam him with the question just be tactful it should be fine

Answer 2

There could be a number of reasons....the only way you will know what those reasons are is if you have a serious talk with him. A marriage should be based on trust and communication and part of making love to your husband is trust and communication. The bottom line, honey, trust that little voice inside you.

Answer 3

A real connection in marriage takes three connections. The greeks split them up into three categories. Agape love, giving love even when you don't feel loved in return. Phileo love, having a deep rooted friendship love based on common interests, time spent together, talking and really getting to know the other on a non physical basis, and Eros love, passionate physical love. If you aren't getting all three loves in your marriage, it is hard to feel the deep connection you need to really enjoy intimacy. See if you can spend time outside of the physical aspect of your marriage to strengthen your relationship. :)

Answer 4

Sweetheart,mabey he has a problem he is not telling you about.
I would come right out & ask him.
It could be that he is just not as intrested in sex as a whole!
I got sick of it after the first 2 yrs or so but I still loved my husband.I'm not saying I don't like sex,I just needed it less often.
If that is not the problem,then I would start watching very closely to see if there is someone else on his mind!

Answer 5

You guys are not putting a lot of effort in it than. My husband and I had the same problems, but we read some books and tips on a better and mor exciting sexual relationship...and it worked like magic. If he is not interested in fixing the problem, then you need to talk to him.
You are probably just too bored or too used to the same old moves.

Answer 6

Definitely need a romance make over!
If you have children get rid of them for one night
go to Victoria's Secret and get some new lingerie
go to Yankee and get some candles go to a hotel if you two have good history at a specific one get it if not go for something with a hot tub in room and possibly a pool in the hotel have the room it is always goo to do this on a Sat. so you two can both rejuvenate on Sunday. have Fun.

Answer 7

Are you putting any effort into it or are you just laying there? Do you communicate with eachother about what you like? He may simply be bored with your sex life, he may be contemplating or having an affair, or he may be stressed out about something completely unrelated. You should talk to him about this, communication is the only thing that will make a relationship last.

Answer 8

Are you saying that you think he feels no connection? You said, he doesn't seem to be into it like I am. Do you sense he is just going through the motions? Well, why don't you talk to him openly and honestly about your feelings?

Answer 9

Could be a few things, here are some guesses:
It's gotten routine, his mind is somewhere else, he's only doing it for you and not into it, he feels it's a duty not a pleasure, or maybe he is into it and your instinct is wrong. But honestly I think as his wife and should be best friend you should just ask him.

Answer 10

Maybe he wants to try something new. Try a public place or some freaky toys like handcuffs. Be creative. If that doesn't work, give him Viagra and make him think its a mint. LOL.