Would you quit a job if: you where told by your employer that you should not have children and that she did not know if I had what it took to be a father.
She also said I should really look into getting a vasectomy. I take care of her 84 year old father and have done so for more than a year. I’m 35 and in good health.
2006-08-12 17:48:06 · 14 answers · asked by christs_tyro_morrow 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I know the answer to your question cause I and many others have been in your situation before, where we feel like we should just quit and give up.
DON'T GIVE IN TO THE WEAKNESS that you know deep down inside of you will bother you for the rest of your life if you do give up. Giving up is the easy way out, which is why so many people drop out of college and many other things. People drop out of college because its easy to do, and is consider a "quick fix" to their stressful problems of being a student.
Now lets look at your situation. If you quit your job just because someone is telling you that you should not have children, you are commiting a "quick fix" on getting out of a situation in which you are TIRED of dealing with. Meaning you have given up, and you are honestly starting to think that there is nothing left in life to live for, so you might as well quit your job. HELL NO MAN, GO LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR, LET YOURSELF REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE, REMIND YOURSELF WHAT YOU STAND FOR, AND STAND YOUR GROUND UNTIL YOU ARE 6 FEET UNDERGROUND.
LISTEN: You are 35, and in good health, so go down to the 24 hour fitness right now and beat the **** out of some weighlifting equipment. After you do this you will feel great! I mean it. Go pump some iron and get into the best shape of your life.
Get a plan, and a strong one. Be your own self, and dont let anyone inside of you. THE ONLY WAY SOMEONE CAN HURT YOU IS IF YOU LET THEM. Only you decide what is offensive towards you. Be strong my brother, and fight to the end!
Good Luck and God Bless you!
2006-08-12 18:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only does she have personal issues, she's also got serious boundary issues! What business is it of hers, whether or not you have children? I would take a deep breath before deciding to do anything. Then I would either write her a note, or confront her...and I would say "I"ve been taking care of your elderly father for over a year. Are these thoughts you have regarding my future children based on how you feel I care for your father?"
That should either shut her up, or bring to the surface the issues she might really be feeling. And it's possible that this has nothing to do with you. That maybe she's projecting some of her personal issues on to you. I would talk to her first, and then, based on that....I might quit. She is (after all) questioning your integrity in some fashion. But make sure you have a job before you leave this one!
2006-08-13 03:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not quit, and why are you listening to her? If you are taking care of her father she should be thankful to you for doing a job she should be. Also, if she is not who you are considering having kids with how would she know what kind of father you would be. That is a decision you and your wife should make, not some one who doesn't have anything to do with you.
2006-08-12 17:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your employer feel like she can speak her mind about your personal life? If you like your job and feel that the pay is right, then you might as well overlook her personal opinion. Also, consider that she may have a vested interest in keeping you devoted to her father and without much of a personal life.
2006-08-12 17:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesn't want you to have children so you can keep
caring for the father. Have those children if you want them.
Let her take care of her own father. As to the vasectomy,don't
fix what isn't broke.
2006-08-12 17:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not quit immediately, but I would say, in no uncertain terms, that she was intruding on matters that are absolutely none of her business and that you will not, under any circumstances, discuss them further. If she persists, then you quit.
2006-08-12 17:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't quit a job unless you have another one that pays better. Don't worry about what people say.
2006-08-16 03:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have an differnt motive for keeping you child free
See a counselor and get an unbiased opinion
2006-08-12 17:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is basically considered harrasment and you can tell her that. IF she continues to behave this way towards you turn her into the labor board.
2006-08-12 18:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, think of it this way, would you feel guilty leaving the old man? if so stay and ignore her bull crap, if you wouldnt feel bad tell her to stuff it where the sun dont shine. and take a hike.
2006-08-12 17:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋