My exgirlfriend told me "no man will ever mean as much to me as my children". My response was that you need to have enough love in your heart for your children and me.
Since she had three kids I seemed to come in fourth place, and sometimes fifth since they had a family dog.
2006-08-12 17:25:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your answer was a good one - for a healthy family, seems you have to be able to love everyone in it!
I wouldn't want to be ranked as low as you seem to feel you were!
But at the same time, children hold a special place in a mom's heart. It's not "more" or "less" love that's the issue, it's just a different kind of love. If I had 3 kids, I wouldn't rank anyone, but I can understand your ex's comment that the kids just mean more than any other family member ever could. It doesn't make the guy "less-than," or the kids "better-than." Loving your kids just takes up a different place in a mom's heart. Hard to explain, really....
2006-08-12 17:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by ABBMAMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is right or wrong, I would bet that most women would say that they give more love to their children, even if the children are from the current significant other. My husband and I have 2 children together and I would die for our kids, but probably not for him. I know he would die for them and probably not for me....but that does not mean that we do not love each other a great deal. Since I am assuming that you are not the father of the ex-girlfriend's children, you are really at a disadvantage. The best way to handle it is to accept the fact that you should not mean as much to her as her kids, you should be happy to find a woman with such strong values and love for her children, and commend her for being a good mother. That will win you points, if you're looking for points.
2006-08-12 17:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless there are some very unusual circumstances, usually joint custody is given to the parents. If this is the case, then there is no child support. But to answer your question more directly, yes, some times the man does get custody of the children and does receive child support. Usually, this happens for two reasons: The mother does not want custody or the court finds that the mother is unfit to have the children. In this last instance, it usually has to do with substance abuse or other criminal behavior.
2016-03-26 23:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but a good mother will always, always put her children before anyone else. My mother put men before her 4 kids and to this day, my little sister hasn't talked to her in over 5 years. I have forgiven my mom, but I lost a respect that I know I should have for her. I'm sorry if you can't understand a mothers love, but you as a man that goes into any relationship where the woman has kids already should understand that those kids are that womans life, not you.
2006-08-12 17:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if the man was a huge part of my life that I would love him just as much as my children. A man who accepts children that aren't his in the first place is a good find, especially if he treats them like they are his own. I would distribute equal amounts of love to my children and my man.
2006-08-12 17:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love all of them with all my heart but it is a different love that I feel for my children. The love for them is a total unconditional love they are just children and need me as their mother to be there for them to guide them and help them become their own person. My husband I love with all my heart but where as nothing could make me stop loving my child there are thngs that would cause me to hate him. Your ex is right a womans child should come first just as that same child should come first with a man over a woman. Simple put if my husband walked out today it would hurt but I could find another husband if I wanted but if I lost a child nothing would ever replace them.
2006-08-12 18:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A smart woman will always choose her kids over a man. Men will come and go. But her children will always be a part of her flesh and blood.
2006-08-12 17:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should be #1 hun what is wrong with her/ I am a woman and I know that someday my children will all leave home and have wives and husbands and DOGS too. and they will always be there to take care of me when i am old soooooooo,,,,, whos left? MY MAN... he will always be here until I die and he is # 1 always.. love rakisup's , WIFE.. have a good day sweety.
2006-08-12 17:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by rakisup 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Id love my kids more than my husband. My kids would mean the world to me. I still would love my husband but i would die for my kids if i had to.
2006-08-12 17:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by age 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love them equally, however, I would die for my children, but not for my spouse.
2006-08-12 17:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by whiskeygrl319 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋