Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do???
If you are going to tell me that I need to talk to someone older like a friend, I have an 18 year old friend thats a girl and she is like a big sister to me but I don't want to bug her with my problems. But should I still try to talk to her???
2006-08-12 17:07:14 · 10 answers · asked by Hmmmm 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't tell me that I need to see a psyciatrist cuz I don't
2006-08-12 17:23:13 · update #1
Heck yeah, girl!! She's your "big sister" for a reason and will be more than happy to cry with you, for you and even cheer you up! Bless your heart. That's what friends are for, love.
2006-08-12 17:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wil never be able to replace the feeling a mother brings to your life. I lost my mom at 20 and I am 25 now it still hurts. I see other people with their moms and the pain is still strong if not stronger now. You are at a time in your life when you are trying to find yourself and your mom is a big part of who you are. The only thing I can tell you is to live like she is over your shoulder smiling saying "way to go girl, Im'm right here". I sure hope you can come to grips with it, It is very hard. God bless you and I wish you well.
2006-08-13 00:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going through some rough times, and you need a mother, find an older friend oler than 18 like a trusted teacher or such, you need someone to talk to about your teenage and woman issues. Maybe see a therapist, even though you are not sick you need a female rolemodel to replace some of what you miss out on, maybe a friend will share their mom.
2006-08-13 00:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, my mom died too. You are at an age when you would really have needed your mom, and you will miss her for the rest of her life. I think you could approach your older friend and see if she's open to listening to you - it could be a very good thing for you. Do you have any aunties?
2006-08-13 05:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. The hurt is stronger now because you're becoming a woman & despite what you may hear from others about needing your parents less...I think it's the time you need them more.
You have to remember she loved you & she'll be with you no matter what you do. Talk to you friend dear & to any other adults you trust, it takes a long time.
2006-08-13 00:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your older friend, if she is like a sister she wont feel bothered at all, she will want to help you. Try talking to her, she will be able to help, and if you want to talk to a mom, feel free to email me anytime.
danica_garret@yahoo.com
2006-08-13 00:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone you can trust. You have to let it go and go on with your life. Move on and think of yourself and your future. It is you who make your own destiny.
2006-08-13 00:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for your lose i now what your going through the easiest way to ease the pain { please dont any one laugh } but you just go right ahead and talk to your mom like she is there with you
2006-08-13 00:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it's awful when we go through our toughest years without a mom around, I know...........I am sure that your freind would really LISTEN to you if you talked to her about your mom.........I wish I could give you a hug...........
2006-08-13 00:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already asked this question.....but I suggest seeing a psychologist.
They are there to help you sort out your feelings.
2006-08-13 00:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by program dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋