2006-08-12 16:46:56 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
now now you guys and gals, ive had this situation with a friend but the other way around, the husband had the child, and the wife chose to forgive him. It has certainly not been anything close to easy, but with faith in the Good Lord above they have made it work. With god all things are possible, POSSIBLE.........NOT EASY OR FUN!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-12 18:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by hairstyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him in not the respond, it won't make you experience extra suited and the ordinary public of human beings that are cheated on will end the marriage. There are some able to forgive yet they in no way forget approximately and your existence isn't an identical afterwords. till you think of he will discover out from somebody else save your moth close, specific it rather is eating you up yet that's your penalty on your movements, sharing it with him will in basic terms injury him and your little ones. In time in case you do not do it back you have the flexibility to place it at the back of you regardless of if it rather is going to take a protracted time for that to take place. Why wreck diverse lives for one mistake regardless of if it replaced into made diverse instances. human beings do not cheat on those they love till some thing is incorrect interior the relationship, decide what replaced into incorrect that made you cheat and artwork on fixing it and save your mouth close. not something good will come of telling every person!
2016-10-02 00:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to choose who you would rather be with now .If you choose your husband you need to tell him and ask if he forgives you im sure it will be hard maybe even end up in a divorce but you need to choose first .Then if you find out your pregnat and you choosed your husband you need to tell him the baby could not be his.Some men will stay some wont.But if you choose your affair over your husband then make sure you get a divorce but what if the baby is your husbands and you chose your affair . will he want to raise a child not his ?this is things you will need to figure out .
2006-08-12 16:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In response to your former question...
This is just an add-on.
You are feeling guilty as heck and you need to come clean!
Period!
You totally screwed up and you need to face the music!
If you think this other married man is going to be there for you, especially now that a child is involved, you are seriously disillusioned.
Just hope you don't end up as a single mother to boot!
Think about the young life you are already influencing!
2006-08-12 16:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are your options:
Don't say a thing, end it with this guy and pow you have a happy new family.
Tell him and be with this other guy (hopping that he is not married)
Tell him and take the chance that he will not understand (and most likely he wont) and leave you.
I think that if I were you and you wanted to stay in the marriage I would just not say a thing and end it.
2006-08-12 16:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, can you live with not telling him and/or lying to him and your future child? If you can keep a secret like that, go for it - because it's gonna cause some major drama. But, if you are pregnant, it's not fair to your baby or your husband for you to lie about the paternity of the child.
2006-08-12 16:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may forgive you with the affair but may not forget. But with another person child? Hmm.... that wud be really tough unless there is a miracle.
2006-08-12 17:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jack T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him the truth. He needs to know if the baby is not his. It's not fair to let him go on believing this is his child. By all means tell the truth and beg for forgiveness.
2006-08-12 17:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally unforgivable!
I would only tell him under certain circumstances, the most obvious--if the lover was of a different race color than you or that of your husbands<==No way of lying out of that one.
I would tell him, if I was in an already bad relationship, and had #1 got pregnant w/out planning it, and really need a way out.
2006-08-12 16:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by bye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him and he may or not forgive you but you should face the consequences of the decisions you decide to make.
2006-08-12 17:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Short 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋