we used to be best friends, we were together for 4 years, and recently she decided she wants us to rekindle the friendship. To me, the relationship is dead, and there's no point in trying. How can I still be friends with her, or win her back? Serious answers only
2006-08-12 16:39:53 · 17 answers · asked by The Pilot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well my bf of 2 years, and i broke up about 3 mths ago , we were best friends in the realtionship, and we still are now, i guess it all depends on how you broke up , can you still be friends with this person , with out feeling angry hurt or pain when you look att his person, she say she wants to rekindle the friendship, does this mean there was a time that you two were not talking?, if that is the case then i can see your piont, the realtionship has been let to get cold, however if you want it badly enough , you can make it work, honestly it all just takes commitment to make it work , i wish you luck
2006-08-12 16:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Woah!!! Are you sure you want to go down that road? I have tried in the past to be friends with exes...I mean there is no need in going through life hating someone right? Well, it has been my experience that when you try to be friends with an ex you make an enemy. Things from the past relationship always get in the way of friendship. People (men AND women) are noted for saying "that's just like you, when we were together you....." If you want to be friends with her then maybe it can work but just realize that you have a lot working against you.
Best of luck.
2006-08-12 16:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply put answer is there is no possible way to be friends with a person that you have had that much history with first friends then lovers now she wants to be friends again there should be no point for you in even trying then in my opinion like i said people with that much history can not just be friends after all they have been put through together
2006-08-12 16:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Joann S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u were freinds b-4 so start slow, and gradually work up i mean what kept the relationship going for so long? well use that and go from there i know its tough, ive been there but both of u will reach a new understanding and appreciation for each other, and gain the respect u need!!
2006-08-12 16:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by hy_tone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you nuts? it will only mean pain. what she wants is what she cant get from her current life, it does not mean she wants to rekindle the relationship. what will happen is that you will be love struck she will have you on a leash she will have her emotional needs fulfilled and you wont get any booty.
it will just mean pain , run away , run away
2006-08-12 16:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relatively is in no way relatively worked out for me and that i've got allot of ex's. basically looks no longer person-friendly to be around somebody you as quickly as cared approximately and now they are seeing somebody else...vice versa to boot. it may well be intense-high quality if that have been the case. no longer everybody can manage friendship after the courting. you would be a common man or woman who isn't egocentric to try this....no longer person-friendly to discover!
2016-11-04 11:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just "be friends" is the most cliche thing when it comes with relationships. And it is one of the most difficult things to follow through with. If you want to just be friends with her...consider starting a conversation or something. If you want to be bold, then ask her to a meal, movie, or my favorite, miniature golf. If you're looking for something a bit less straight forward, ask her to have some fun with you and a few friends. Go bowling or something that you like. I dunno. Just try some various things. If she seems open to it, then it is all up to you.
2006-08-12 16:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from personal experience, if the relationship ended on a bad note, it's almost impossible to even associate with the person.
2006-08-12 16:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by annarenee83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a great way to do it... I am friends with a few of my x's and it was never easy at first. Also, it usually takes a few years before you can even begin to consider being friends.
2006-08-12 16:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by MB_Bailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on how much you both have changed since. Do you trust each other enough? Do you have similar interests that you could actually have a friendship with?
2006-08-12 16:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋