when i will first see my child will she be scared of me, since she was little when i left her with her father?
2006-08-12 16:34:55 · 11 answers · asked by susie_07_04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that breaks my heart just reading about it...i feel sorry for her...i don't know how you can replace lost time...thats tough!
2006-08-12 16:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military service?
She will probably not recognize you, even if pictures are being shown. The big "fear of strangers" age is closer to 12 months, so you may escape that. If you are around all the time from now on, and don't force things, you will fit back in and she will not remember the gap at all.
Just go as fast as she can to get back into her life. If she pulls back, wait a bit and try again later.
2006-08-12 23:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Memory may be instant, yet she may not know why she remembers you and could at that age be a little afraid. If you always wore a certain cologn, wear it. If you alway splayed certain music, play it. Those are easy memory triggers.
Just be a friend at first. Go slow. She will learn to love you again if she doesn't automatically recall you.
I wish you the best of luck
2006-08-12 23:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sueby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not be over bearing with her. I know it's hard not to want to hold her, love on her, etc. But children can be scared very easily, let her come to you when you go see her. Just talk to her, make good solid eye contact with her when you talk to her. It's going to take time.
2006-08-12 23:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by dns618 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you leave her with her father?? They say a child will always know her mother!
2006-08-12 23:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she won't remember your face- scared ?- but it may take a couple hours to a day or two. Be patient.
2006-08-12 23:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by mominshoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont take her long, as long as you are always with her to reinforce that you are her mother.
2006-08-12 23:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by epchacon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think the dad will let u see her if u just left them, well if he does he will know u, just be nice
2006-08-12 23:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shouldn't take too long at all especially if you spent the first ten motnhs with her,
2006-08-12 23:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by University Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you leave your kid? you sound like my sister-in-law. she left her kids with her parents so she could party and screw everyone that she saw.
2006-08-12 23:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany228 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋