Is it possible for a man and woman to have sucessful marriage without sex?

Question

Hot off the press, Y'all! There is a growing undercurrent in response to our civilizations preoccupation with all things sexual. Asexual people are coming forward in their quest to gain recongition as a respected sexual oreintation...like gays have established.

People who consider themselves "asexual", are people who lack sexual desire. However, these people still seek out mates for companionship but not sex. This growing movement will try to gain recognition and respect for their chosen way of life by convincing others that they are ok with it and they deserve freedom to choose.

Like all other sexual orientations, I think that these folks do have a point but it may not be in keeping with standard society. Is sex really so important to a marriage or have we been sold a bill of goods by marketeers who use sex as a selling point? Anyway, answer my question with some forethought..thank you in advance!

Answer 1

i really do think that sex is important in keeping a marriage strong. Even though it is so often abused and taken lightly, it really is the most special thing you can share with the one you love.

Answer 2

Personally I love sex and I couldn't have a serious relationship without it. Not that I am a sex maniac or anything like that... but sex is important to me. Therefore, I require a partner who likes sex as much as I do. It's pleasing and it helps connect me and my husband in a way that I connect with no one else. That makes it beautiful, wonderful, expressive-- and fun.

I've heard about asexual groups and whatnot, and hey if it works for them, and makes them happy-- good for them! However, I'm not sure if it's natural to not have any sexual feelings and/or desires.... I mean sex isn't anything new that was just introduced to society. In fact just the opposite, it has always been apart of human nature, and through most of history it has been repressed... people-- especially woman have been lead to believe that their natural sexual desires were wrong, bad, and dirty. So, is it normal to be asexual or is that a product of a repressive society? OR is there a biological difference between a sexual person and an asexual person?

As far as sex and it's connection to marriage... if you are a regular person with normal sexual needs and desires, of course it's necessary in a marriage! If you want/need to have sex and you can't have it with your spouse than who else?? The answer to that breaks up a lot of marriages... lol

But if two asexuals fall in love and want to get married... than good for them... and obviously sex won't be important in their relationship... I think sex doesn't make a marriage... love and compatibility do.

Answer 3

I think that if 2 asexual people can meet and marry then it's up to them whether they have sex or not. It brings up some legal issues because of not consummating the marriage, but I guess that would be hard to prove anyway.
I'm sure the only problem would be if an asexual married a person who wants sex or who had changed their mind after a number of years.

Answer 4

Believe it or not, all marriages eventually become "asexual". It is because as you age, hormone levels drop and sexual desire is not what it once was. Also, your body no longer co-operates. You may say, that will never happen to you but can you picture yourself at 80 still having sex? On second thoughts, as a guy, you can probably picture it but the truth is far different from reality.

Answer 5

I honestly don't believe that there can be a happy marriage without sex. Sex is another form of bonding. An intimate relationship with your spouse is just as important as an intellectual relationship. I think if you have a mate for pure "companionship" you would call that a friend.

Answer 6

I do believe there are folks like that out there, I've known a couple of them on a friendly level. If two asexual people married, that would work just fine. But those of us who are sexual creatures would be very unhappy in a relationship that did not include sexual intimacy.

Peace.

Answer 7

Sex is overated. Yes, it's certainly an important component to most marriages, especially during the younger years. But as people "grow old together" sex is replaced by more substantive values such as companionship, trust, fidelity, dependability, and respect. If the marriage started out with sex as the premier attraction, that will wear thin and - in most cases - the marriage will fall apart as one partner (or both) eventually drifts into extra-marital affairs, searching for some kind of utopian relationship that seldom results in any lasting satisfaction.
The media and the movies found out a long time ago that 'sex sells', and it's become a preoccupation for millions of couples who find themselves lost in a world of aloneness all because they have nothing else in common to their spouses.
I speak from practical experience. My first marriage was over before I reached age 21 simply because after the sex we had nothing left to share. My second marriage ended in disaster after two years before it became obvious sex was our only common denominator. Between marriage #1 and marriage #2 I plundered my way through perhaps 300 women, mostly tawdry one-night stands that only made me want to sneak out of that cheap little "notel motel" as soon as she passed out.
Marriage #3 lasted six days in Las Vegas, the entire time consuming massive quantities of alcohol and countless sexual encounters over and over again.
Marriage #4 began on New Year's Eve, 1977. But the sex wore off quickly (especially since there had been so much of it prior to the wedding, which is just another good reason for remaining a virgin until you marry). We "knew" each other by the time we took the vows; what else was there to share? Four years ago I walked away from that marriage (although we're still not divorced) because my wonderful wife turned into a raving, scowling, mean-spirited drunk, usually after terrible arguments about our lack of sex and our miserable marriage. While I care for her deeply, I can't live with her - and I'm convinced her raging alcoholism will kill her before she turns 60.
Now, at 62, I have found the "love of my life", but it, too, is falling apart. Not because of a sexual proclivity (the sex wasn't all that great, but the relationship turned into an enduring friendship). Now, however, I find myself not being able to get out of the rut of all my old sexual innuendoes, jokes, etc., and my ingrained personality is beginning to drive her away. At age 63 next month, I expect I'll be without anyone special in my life, and will probably live the rest of my life asexually.
It's been a wasted life, mostly because of my preoccupation with sex as some kind of "marathon" or performance event instead of the tender, gentle, caring act it should be between two people who are fully committed to each other.
Today's young people put so much emphasis on sex, and think nothing of multiple partners and numerous relationships. Take it from an old man that's learned the hard way: you don't want to end up alone and lonely just in time for your golden years. You will be much more content at retirement age with a strong, asexual, loving, deeply-committed relationship. The 'Joy of Sex' isn't worth the gloom of being alone as you grow older. -RKO-

Answer 8

I think for most, sex is important, and one of the most enjoyable aspects of a relationship. I'm sure a marriage can survive without sex, as long as both people feel the same about it.

Answer 9

I think sex is an important part of marriage. Not only is it good exercise and a stress reliever but being that intimate with someone you really love is a special thing.

Answer 10

I think you can have a great marriage without sex. Some people have no choice, medical conditions or whatever. If you truly love someone, you have other things more important. But to each his own. No one should care how someone else chooses to live their lives.

Answer 11

It is a fact that sex and being intiment is two different things.
I believe that two people can be in a great marriage with out having sex.. but people need human contact.. hugs.. touch.. kisses..

I believe if there is real love between two people you could be married with out ever having sex.

Men that have medical problems and viagra does not work.. can still love.. and a women that has low sex drive can be with him.

would you divorce a man or women you love if they for health reasons could not have sex?

Real love does not need sex..