my husband told me he really loved this lady but there was always something he was doing wrong. She also didn't like to go out with him to dance or just hang out with his friends. she was 8 years older and always reminded him of it. so when we met he confessed to having sex with a girl from the local bar and on other occasions kissing and fondling stuff but anyway they broke up for other reasons and she never knew about these things. well i really love him and trust him but sometimes in the back of my mind i think why didn't he just break up and get it over with than live in a lie.
2006-08-12 16:21:56 · 19 answers · asked by chocolatesandbreakfast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't talk about past loves. It is not healthy.
Do not worry about this. It's ok.
2006-08-12 16:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly hoping she would change and want to go out or go out and be with him and his friends. Also, maybe she knew going out to bars created the opportunities he experienced and she was long over the bar scene. They probably broke up due to just what you are stating......they were at different stages in life and maturity. Only he can tell you why he didn't make a clean break.
2006-08-12 23:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, if he had any balls he would have broke up and started a relationship with the other woman. I have no respect for anyone who cheats on someone else. There is no reason to cheat unless you are too chickensh!t to stand up and say you are not happy and want something else.
If he has a history in cheating maybe your suspictions are right but if he can get it on in 25 minutes and get back you need to find another lover anyway!!!
Best of luck.
2006-08-12 23:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater, I truly believe it. He could do the same to you as he did to her. Everyone wants to think they are the one that can change a man, but no one can. It is in him to do that and not care who he hurts. Good luck, you'll need it.
2006-08-12 23:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you never made a mistake in your life?
For example, does your husband know about Yahoo!Answers? A bit deceitful, wouldn't you say?
2006-08-12 23:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just something he chose to do. I suggest you talk this over with y our husband. It could lead to bad things if you let this get to you.
2006-08-12 23:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say, if he loved u, he would not have done that, he would have been faithful to u, and u could have trusted him, plus if i was u then u could have done better, and i would not want him after he had done that, because that is just trash, and i firmly believe that u r better than that!!!
2006-08-12 23:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by hy_tone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a looser to me. What is it hes good for??? Lies & cheats . humm Think I would give him the boot. You got better fish to fry.
2006-08-12 23:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by TT Bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your point, but just remember that he loves you enough to marry you. He apparently didn't love this girl enough to make such a commitment. Hopefully he takes his wedding vows seriously.
2006-08-12 23:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by this girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right.
2006-08-13 02:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋