after nearly 2 yrs of seeing him something wasnt right, we werent progressing so I started ckng things out and found out he was married, now 6 yrs and has a 3 yr old daughter..all of which he denied until i confronted him w proof then he admitted it. Yes, we were having alot of sex. Should I tell his wife?
2006-08-12 16:15:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it took me 2 yrs. He was here 3-4 times a week, i never thought anyth of it until we werent progressin as a relationship should and i got gut feelings and started going with them, investigating. Gut feelings are NEVER wrong.
2006-08-12 16:25:32 · update #1
I've told him to leave me alone, stop calling...but he says he cant lv me alone, that he loves me and shows up at my house without notice.
2006-08-12 16:28:21 · update #2
why r u focusing on telling his wife. unless he gave u a STD dont bother. what do u hope 2 accomplish? u need 2 be trying 2 get ur life together and get rid of this lying and cheating person. i am sure it's not his first and wont be his last. u need 2 heal and get healthy once more. u probably feel hurt and sorry to say, used. however u even said u jumped in and didnt check out anything. dont waste precious time on a shoulda, coulda, woulda. i hope u know what i mean. I posted some links that help people male or female get over breaking up and moving on. i hope this helps and good luck!
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2006-08-12 16:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Just learn from this mistake. The wife will find out sooner or later that he is a cheater. You could make things worse if she does find out. The husband could know where you live and harrass you. Next time make sure the man is not married. Not your fault he was dishonest. When talking to people on the internet they write anything you want to hear. I have heard a lot and lots of them were honest saying they were married but they wanted to have an affair. I liked to talk to many people but I would never meet up with someone on here. I am married myself and could not imagine cheating on my husband.
2006-08-12 23:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell his wife the guy is a no good for nothing a**. I hate men that think a women is only good to have sex with an you can throw her away after you use her. I have had my share of men like this. It seems that you fall in love with them and then they break your heart. Good luck. The guy I am currently dating is separated and he has a 3 year old daughter.
2006-08-12 23:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he continues to call and harass you that you will call and email him until his wife finds out about you.
Let him know that he has used you and you don't wish to be the other woman. Let him know you're willing to drop this and move on with your life unless he forces you to contact him at home and let his wife know.
If he tells you that it's fine to let his wife know and that he wants to only be with you, tell him to get lost. Once a cheat always a cheat. He'll never get a divorce as his wife will take him to the cleaners.
You could also could get a restraining order and have his calls blocked.
Good Luck. Move on and get your life back on track. I hope you all the happiness you deserve.
2006-08-16 21:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kamikazeâ?ºKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, put yourself in her position. Would you want to know if your husband had done that to you? I personally would tell his wife because I feel like she needs to know. If she never finds out, he may continue to do this to her and things could end up really bad. On the other hand, ignorance is bliss, but I would feel it appropriate to tell his wife.
2006-08-12 23:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser he is. When you are asking, Should I tell his wife? you are really asking, Should I totally ruin another woman's life just so I can feel virtuous about myself for telling the truth?
On the other hand, doesn't she have a right to know?
I think she does have the right to know, but I'm sure she doesn't want to know. You have to convince HIM to tell his wife himself, otherwise you will do it for him. That's what I would do.
2006-08-13 04:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took you 2 yrs. Oh he got what he wanted from you. Yes tell her for all you know she does know anyway.
2006-08-12 23:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes you need to tell her, you may not be the only one hes sleeping around with, and she should proabbly get tested for STD's, and so should you!!!
2006-08-12 23:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you are a slow learner as it appears that he uses you for sex (and it must be great!!!). The ball is now in your court!!
2006-08-12 23:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Antoine a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you haven't told his wife yet....lol
You must like games and now you are one.
2006-08-16 10:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋