2006-08-12 15:59:18 · 11 answers · asked by chocolatesandbreakfast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say to give the man a chance. If you don't give him a real chance then you will never know what could have been. Everyone deserves a fair trial, the fact that he married you and not her says something. If he was with her for four years and never tied the knot, then undoubtedly he knew she wasn't the one anyway. Give the man a chance and let him show you what he is made of. Don't kill your marriage before it's had a chance to live.
2006-08-12 16:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by mommyof6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to know if he will cheat on you or not. Somewhere I read that if you ask him what he thinks about cheating, and if he says that he thinks cheating is OK when ...blablabla..(gives you a reason for when is OK to cheat) then he is more probable to cheat again.
Now, that doesn't mean that you don't have to trust him anymore, just be more alert about the signals, and try to find out why he cheated (men always give you lousy excuses of why they've cheated) . I wish you well and if he hasn't give you any reason to doubt of him, don't sabotage your happiness.
2006-08-12 23:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is why would he tell you this information to begin with? Is he being open and honest and laying all his cards on the table, or is he trying to put doubts into your head and warn you what he is capable of. This question really needs to be based on the relationship you have with him. Happy,and I mean truly happy married men don't cheat. However, if there are problems, history has a tendancy to repeat itself. Go with your gut honey, it's usually right. If things are going great, maybe he's just getting the skelatons out of the closet. If there are problems, start looking for the usual clues.
2006-08-12 23:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we answer this? More info is needed. I dont believe the ole saying, once a cheater, always a cheater. because I believe people can change. However, the likeihood of you getting horn is very high irregardless if he cheater in his previous relationship or not.
Just look at the divorce stats. There is a 50% chance he will cheat on you...or you on him.
2006-08-12 23:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very good chance of that happening. If he cheated before then he has experience and probably feels comfortable doing it. Ask him if he got caught cheating and what his explanation was. This might give you clues to how he might do it again and maybe give you some signs if he is thinking of doing it again.
2006-08-12 23:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he meant the vows he took on your wedding day, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. ask him why he cheated with the relationship that lasted 4 years. there's always a reason behind why people cheat.
2006-08-12 23:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're seriously asking this question, what are you doing with him?
If you're that insecure that you have to ask yourself that, then you shouldn't even be with him in the first place since you can't trust him.
2006-08-12 23:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by DeadxStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was strong enough to tell you that i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-08-12 23:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by satirecafe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater Always a cheater...
2006-08-12 23:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if he wants to change. It's up to him.
2006-08-12 23:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋