Any Teen Moms or any kind of moms?

Question

ok im only 16 yrs old but i sooooooo luv babies i really want 1 but is it really hard work? i mean im NOTgona go out in the streets and jus choose a man and get me pregnant..HELL NO! its dat i have a 3 yr old bro w/ downs and he sometimes calls me MOM and that made me realize that i want a child so bad can some 1 help me?

Answer 1

What kind of help do you want?

I got married and then at the age of 26 had my daughter. She's 3 now. She was a surprise, we wanted wait another year or so. Needless to say she is the best thing that I have ever been apart of. Her smile can light the room! Her cuteness aside, she can be a real A** pain. She takes a lot of work to keep occupied and wants to be in the middle of everything. I do most of my house work after she is in bed. I don't get much sleep. Our days are filled with games, lots of reading, going to the park, playing in the yard; anything to keep her entertained and mentally stimulated at the same time. She's like a sponge she picks up everything around her. She is stubborn and at times I don't know what to do with her. Sometimes she can be so loving and others I think she's gone nuts. Children need structure and guidance, they need a safe loving environment.
Most of our friends are still childless and that means that I don't get out as much as I used to. My husband goes out sometimes but I've got to stay home with our daughter. I'm so glad that I was 26 by the time she was born. I got to go out and party and feel the freedom of being young and not tied down. I'm not sitting at home wondering what I missed out on. I'm happy with where my life is now and don't feel the need to go out and party and what-not.

You are 16. Don't get too wrapped up in wanting to have kids, I know they are cute and cuddly. I'm not that old, but you are still closer at your age to being a kid than you want to admit (trust me I was there). You won't want your child to be a burden. Wait! Please Wait! Finish school, go to college, be wild, do everything, enjoy your freedom. Have a child when you can be a good role model, and when you can really enjoy being a parent. You cant offer the world to your child unless you’ve been in it.

Take Care andGood Luck!

Answer 2

Here's the thing. You'll be 24 hours a day with a baby. They are all about themselves. You won't be able to have fun with your friends. You'll be up all night, there's the puke, and the diapers, and the expense - and it's really expensive. Moms are just better at being moms when they're grown up. Make sense to you? Grow up first, get some experience in the world, THEN start a family. Preferredly married to a guy who knows how to be a Dad. Babies need Dads, too. You'll have time to do all this!

In the meantime, get a job working with babies. Babysitting, daycare. That way you can give them back when work is over, and you'll get an idea of what it's like. Remember college? Odds are you'll have to forget about it if you have a baby first.

Answer 3

Dear take it from someone who is 19 and actually had a baby at 16 it is not easy nor is it no picnic and babies do not stay babies either.

Do you have any idea how hard it is to wake up with ababy several times during the night then get up at 6 in the morning to go to school and try to stay the hell awake and concentrate? It is hard and then on top of this you are going to need a job to support the baby and trust be babies are not cheap I mean just diapers, wipies and formula for a week can cost you like 60 bucks.

Also something to think about while your working and going to school who will be watching your baby and when exactly will you see your baby?

Babies are very exspensive and need a lot of care. You have to take care of them 24/7 they are not like a doll where when you get bored with it you throw it away or put it on a shelf.

Babies cost a lot of money just comming into the world I mean the doctor visits for your pregnancy and the actual birth cost thousands of dollars and do you have any idea how painful it is to have a baby? IT IS HELL.

Babies constanly spit up till thier about a year old so you go threw dozens of clothes a day and who gets to warsh all those, you do and you get to scrub the stains out of them as well.

Think of all the stuff you need like a playpen, stroller, crib, car seat, clothes, baby tub, baby swing, changing table and so much more. That stuff is goign t ocost you ALOT of money and where exactly are you going to get it from?

What if your mom kicks you out because you get pregnant and the babies dad walks away? What do you do then and how do you afford the baby and give it a place to live?

You are 16 and still a kid yourself and have a lot of living to do. Just immagine what it will be like at 18 when your no longer living by your parents rules and your friends are out partying all night at clubs while your home with a baby..not a lot of fun.

I am lucky my mother watches my son every weekend so I can go out and have fun but she can easily stop that.

Answer 4

I am 18 years old. I just graduated high school. I had huge plans of going off to college, becoming a pharmacist, etc.

But now I'm sitting at home taking care of my daughter, while her father runs around town doing absolutely nothing for her. I work 9 hours a day, come home, and do the hardest job of all- taking care of Sydney. I love Sydney with all my heart and soul- she is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

But she is also the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I know I made the mistake and got pregnant, but now I won't be going to college for along time. I cannot afford daycare for Sydney, and luckily I have a 16 year old sister who will watch her for me while I'm at work.

I wouldn't recommend having a baby until you are in a married, stable relationship with 2 incomes and 2 college educations. Otherwise, you'll end up like so many of us.

You still have a chance. Don't get preganat.

Answer 5

yes it is very tough my hubby and I have 3. Yes it is a lot of work, I love it wouldnt change a thing of having them!
You just have to make sure you can financially care for them it does cost a lot of money! ur only 16 go to college first get a career , save money and then have a child! My sis in law has a friend who was 15 and had a child! Her parents are doing nothing to hel[p her so this girl is struggling badly! Not too mention she's not goin to college blames her child for that. There's more to having a baby than just hard work! Takes a lot of patience a lot of time, ad tons of money! Just think about what I said you have plenty of time to wait and have a family, enjoy being a young girl while you can!

Answer 6

Im a mom of a 17 year old girl and my advise is to do some babysitting on a regular basis, this will give you a good ideal of how time consuming a baby is. You are much too young to be caring for a child by choice. Rethink the situation you have so much more to do before children.

Answer 7

you are too young to have a baby of your own, but since you love babies so much I would persue and education in child development. Many schools have programs that will actually have you intern at a local child care facility. It's a great way to get your foot in the door. In about 5 years if you feel the same, go ahead and have the baby you want. Good luck

Answer 8

Babies are a lot of hard work. Their needs HAVE to come first, (so your needs are last). Yes, I will agree that babies bring happiness to a person's life but they can also be extremely stressful, (I have two children myself and their ages are 4 and 2). Although you badly want a baby, you need to enjoy your life first and think about other stuff. Your three year old brother probably calls you mom because he looks up to you and sees you as a mother-figure because you help take care of him. When he gets older, he will stop calling you that and call you by your first name.

Answer 9

you should wait until you are out of high school AT LEAST. also before you decide to have a kid you need to figure out how you are going to support it and if you really want to dedicate the amount of time spent on taking care of a baby. after all, you're only 16 once, live it up a little and worry about kids later on. for now if you're really intrested in kids maybe you should try working at a day care center or volunteering at an elementary school or something like that.

Answer 10

Your body is programmed to do this to you - to make babies as soon as you hit puberty. Unfortunately we no longer live in a society that is conducive to young people becoming parents. Babies grow into children who then grow into teenagers, etc. Children are extremely expensive to raise. Without a husband/man with a great job to support you, you won't even be able to raise your child - they would have to be raised by your family, day care, and television - because you'll have to be in school or have a job. And how would you afford college, and college is what you need to get a job that makes money. Unfortunately women have a hard choice to make these days. To do the right thing for your children, you really have to have money to do it right. And a man who will stick around and be a good role model is Extremely important to both young girls and young boys. And NO ONE wants to date a single parent, it's a fact of life. Of course young, poor single mothers manage - but they aren't there for their children, which is why there is more crime in poor areas - the kids have to raise themselves. In order to enjoy the children you will have, you will have to wait until you can afford to spend time with them. Best to put yourself on birth control immediately, because that actually helps lower the desire to breed like a rabbit. :-) Good luck and be strong.