I moved out of state to get away from the horrible things my ex did. Feeling beyond depressed b/c I am having difficultly connecting with people that can or are willing to take the time to understand/accept the difficulties of being a 100% single parent. Feeling desperate.
2006-08-12 15:47:54 · 9 answers · asked by spudtv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People do not care unless it has happened to or directly effected them.
It is hard to live in this day and age on ones own let alone raising kids with the economy being this depressed.
Keep your chin up and good luck.
2006-08-12 15:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a counselor. You shouldn't need acceptance from other people. Enjoy your time with your children. Take them to the park (free). You can meet other parents to talk to without sharing your burdens. You might meet another single mother. And, you still have the internet to talk to other adults. Just don't neglect the kids. Remember, they will only grow up once... then it's too late to go back and do all the things you will wish you would have done.
When I was single, men would ask for my number, but not understand that even after I gave it to them, I didn't have time to talk. Then they would want to take me out... no time... no sitter... and a few of them offered to take my kids with them... lol, no thanks, you will just get mad later when I can't talk to you on the phone. Good luck girl, it's tough, but you sound strong. You can do it! Oh, and church is not only free, but there are a lot of caring people there. Not to mention the great structure for the kids.
2006-08-12 22:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a single parent but my mom did raise me, my brother and sister on her own, so I saw all of the sacrifices that she had to make. She worked 4 jobs at once, yet miraculously found time to stay actively involved in the lives of me and my siblings.
I know that you're feeling a sense of deep loss and that hope is beyond your reach but things will get better. I promise. But look at it this way--you'll become that much stronger after going through this divorce. Until you find a support group that you like, I suggest watching a movie that makes you laugh and doing the things that you enjoy doing.
As harsh as this may sound, forget your ex. I bet he isn't crying over you, so why should you cry over him? Don't waste your tears on some horrible ex. Laugh. Smile. Enjoy life. Don't waste time on him. Time is just too precious for that.
Anyway, check out this link for support groups: http://www.library.wisc.edu/libraries/WomensStudies/fc/fcwebwal.htm
2006-08-12 22:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't know what you have to go through, the only people I've found to be understanding are other single parents or maybe someone that grew up in a single parent household. Things may be hard but they'll also get better.
2006-08-12 23:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you are going through. I am a single parent of a 3 year old who doesn't understand why she can't see or talk to her dad. I moved out of the area to provide a better life for both of us. I hope things will get better for us and you guys too!!!
2006-08-12 22:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kat N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a support group for single parents in your area. A lot of churches also have singles groups you can join. You have a very difficult job and you deserve to be happy!
2006-08-12 22:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by RIVER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong and know in your heart you did what you had to do for "your" family.
I have been in a very similar spot myself and it takes time to allow yourself to connect with others. They are out there and some really good people too.
Give it some time and connect with your children. They need security and support too.
Then, take a long bath. You deserve it!!
2006-08-12 22:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by mzduncan1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean dating or friends? Regardless, why do they have to understand anything? If you are available you are available. If you can't make it because you are parenting or working, then you can't make it. If you are planning on finding someone, friend or date, who wants to hear all your troubles or have to help you all the time then you are a user. How could you expect someone new to your life to do either?
2006-08-12 22:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me sweetie you are not alone in that one. I am 23. with 2 kids. aged 1 and a half and 3. I recently left a bad abusive relationship with my soon to be ex-husband. If you ever need someone to talk to. email me.
Irish_leprauchan_princess@hotmail.com
2006-08-12 22:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Harmony22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋