With an open mind, tell me what you think.?

Question

I am a 100% gay man. I find it hard to accept someone being bisexual in reguard to a relationship. Especially if it is a monogomos one and not some open, everything goes one, which I don't care for. I mean, if you are in a loving relationship with a certain gender. Doesn't that define your orientation? Please don't judge me too harsh. Those are just my thoughts.

Yes, this is a question, silly person.

It's like, if I was in a relationship,and my partner said that those womans breast looked good, I wouldn't find that interesting.

Well, I guess I am just not articulate enough to get my point across.

So many great and interesting answers.

Think you all, I appreciate it.

Answer 1

In my opinion being bisexual is wanting your cake and eat it too.It is preposterous to consider ones self as a monogomous person and have both sexes.Unless you are in an open relationship type situation,you can not be faithful to both a man and a woman. Someone is going to be cheated as you get your jollies.It is selfish in my opinion.And it is weak in that one cant make positive decisions in ones life.Saying one is bisexual is to say one wants a harem of peple to have sex with.A heterosexual man can not be multisexed to have multiple women unless you cheat someone.So why should a so called bisexual man be allowed to have both?And when they finally condone same sex marriages,does the bisexual get to be married to two sexes at the same time?Why not?If we expect latitude,should we not grant latitude?

Answer 2

I am 100% gay man too but I do "understand" bisexuality. In fact, most people are bisexual to some degree and being either completely gay or straight are just the 2 opposite ends of the spectrum. A bisexual person is capable of being attracted to anyone of any sex physically and emotionally. Some people may say they are bi just to test the waters of being gay ya know, since it seems more socially acceptable to be bi than gay. I think the biggest thing we gay men get hung up on with the whole bisexual thing is we may ask ourselves why a bisexual man would want to be with us in a relationship that is looked down on in society when he could be just as happy in a "normal" heterosexual relationship. Hope this helps, but if it doesn't, just take a step back from things and try to think about it with an open mind.

Answer 3

You are being such a hypocrite.

It makes me so mad that I have to defend bisexual rights to lesbian and gay people even more then to straight people. Yes bisexuals are attracted to both sexes but that doesn’t mean they have to have both sexes. Bisexuals can be just as monogamous as lesbian/gay and straight people can.

Just because you like guys doesn’t mean you cannot only like one in a relationship. If a bisexual girl falls in love with a girl or guy then she can stay faithful to that one person. She doesn’t need the only sex, it’s about the love and who the person is not just sexual feelings, though they are there also.

You are passing on another bisexual myth. Haven’t you read those yet? You know, from the Human Rights Campaign? You should. Then I wouldn’t have to repeat myself so often.

What defines your orientation is who you are attracted to. For bi's both guys and girls. Yet even in a one on one relationship the attraction is still there. Just because a bi girl is with another girl she doesn't turn into a lesbian, she is still bisexual.

Answer 4

For some bisexuals, it's the soul inside the person. For me, gender and race are not a factor when I get into a relationship.

How can you NOT still be bi when it's the soul? I have been in a monogamous relationship for three years with someone I love very much, but I still like to look and flirt with members of both sexes. I'm still attracted to them.

Answer 5

Sexual impulses and attractions are not the same with everyone. Heterosexuality and homosexuality are only the two extremes. In the middle of these two 'extremes' is bisexuality.

There are bisexuals that identify as primarily straight, but also have some sexual attraction to their same sex. There are also those that are bisexual, who may have a stronger preference for there own gender, but are attracted to the 'opposite' sex to some degree and do not rule out sexual activity with them.

Some in the gay and lesbian communities accuse those who self-identify as bisexual of duplicity, believing they are really homosexuals who engage in heterosexual activity merely to remain socially acceptable. They may be accused of "not doing their part" in gaining acceptance of "true" homosexuality. Some gay and lesbian people may also suspect that a self-described bisexual is merely a homosexual in the initial stage of questioning their presumed heterosexuality, and will eventually accept that they are lesbian or gay; this is expressed by a glib saying in gay culture: "Bi now, gay later."

These situations can and do take place, but do not appear to be true of the majority of self-described bisexuals. Nonetheless, bisexuals do sometimes experience lesser acceptance from gay and lesbian people, because of their declared orientation. Bisexual experimentation is also common in adolescents of every sexual orientation.

Answer 6

There are human beings like NT Wright that integrate both perspectives nicely. And there are the historic Jesus human beings (many from the Jesus Seminar) like Marcus Borg and John Dominic Crossan who examine it thoroughly seriously (as I do) and nonetheless believe. I distinctly recommend 2 books to you - Marcus Borg's analyzing the Bible back for the first Time and Margaret Nutting Ralph's And God stated What? both or both honestly a approach of will provide you all teh foundation you want to bathe up the confusion and assist in making the Bible suitable to you as a intense and open minded reader.

Answer 7

I myself am bi. I don't think I understand it myself sometimes. I can't help it. If I can focus on one gender completely and be normal, I would, but I can't. I want a monogomous relationship with a person, not just a man or a woman. I can find myself spending the rest of my life with one person, no matter the gender. I look at the inside of the person, not just the genitals. I guess my "confusion" is a blessing in disguise. There's a better chance of finding my one true love.

Answer 8

No, just because you are in a monogamous relationship with a certain gender, it doesn't define your orientation. One can be bisexual & be in a monogamous relationship, just as one can be straight or gay & be in a monogamous relationship. For example, a married man can be sexually attracted to women other than his wife & can even be sexually attracted to other men without cheating on his wife. One can be in a monogamous relationship with someone of their own sex, yet be sexually attracted to others of the opposite sex as well as others of the same sex who aren't their partner. Their orientation is defined by who they would have sex with under the right conditions. Sometimes the conditions are different than their orientation might suggest.

Answer 9

Being in love with someone only defines who you are in love with.
Monogamy makes the issue of bisexuality irrelevant if you both buy into monogamy. Your partner may still focus an eye on a butt of the 'wrong' sex, but how is that different from any other hormone-induced glance?

I'm 100% straight. But i don't require anyone else to be like me (100%, 50% or 10% of anything). Sometimes, it just takes time to get used to the idea.

Answer 10

Just as a homosexual person can be in a relationship, and find attraction to others, or a heterosexual person can be in a relationship and find attraction to others, a bisexual in a relationship with a gay guy is likely to be attracted to other people of either or both genders.

But his relationship should be so strong, and his commitment to that monogamous promise he has made so strong, that he does not ACT on that attraction.

I agree, that if a bisexual person is in a monogamous relationship with someone, he cannot have sex with anyone else, regardless if that third person is male or female.