2006-08-12 14:30:07 · 18 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If Its not a medical reason, then I would think he was not intrested, or maybe he isn`t touching you because he thinks your not intrested in him, I think I would try to make him feel sexy, and come on to him, If he still don`t try then I would give up, But if he loves you and you love him, hey sex isn`t everything. you can love someone without having have sex with them, find other ways to satisfy yourself, If its a medical reason.
2006-08-12 14:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy is a very intricate part of a marriage. Without intimacy there is a very important physical part of the bond missing. Absence of touch doesn't necessarily mean infidelity. Without discussing it you will never know why. More than likely after this amount of time you DO have an idea of why this is happening in your marriage?
An illness? Previous trust issues? Age? Not making intimacy a priority to the health of the marriage?
You must ask yourself if the marriage can be saved after such a lengthy lack of intimacy? Do you BOTH want to save the marriage?
Counseling would be the best thing. You must identify the issues/pains/reasons and/or emotions behind a 9 year span where a married couple is having no contact?
There are no quick fixes for this situation. Mediation will have to be sought at this point.
Good luck to you...........
2006-08-12 21:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd just be thankful that they've come out of that 9 year coma. That would be the only reason I'd stay in a marriage where the spouse didn't "touch" me for 9 years.
2006-08-12 22:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something wrong somewhere! Men do not go nine years without sex, or at least touching. If he's not touching you, there's some other woman involved! To answer your question.....I would have been gone a long time ago. You have wasted nine years of your life, in a loveless marriage......don't make it ten!
2006-08-12 21:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He/she is cheating or has a major sexual disfunction. Dump them and find happiness elsewhere. Sex is a part of maintenance in a relationship. It a way to express how you feel about the other. If you are not touching, you are not feeling it.
2006-08-12 22:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Carmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into counseling if he won't go with you go alone.
Also suggest a full physical for the both of you and then try to get him to talk to the DR about any erectile problems or sexual interest problems he is having.
If he has high blood pressure the meds affect sexual desire.
2006-08-12 21:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wonder why it took me 9 years to figure out that something was up! Come on, you can't be serious! 9 days would be enough to tell the average person that something wasn't quite right!
2006-08-12 22:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i dont want to hurt you but that means hes with some one else. A man can not go 9 years wihtout sex or at least attempting sex. Even if he is having sexual issues, he would at least try.
You need to talk to him and then make a decision on weather you want to stay or not
2006-08-12 21:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know but when you find out e-mail me.been married 22 yrs my wife hasn't touched me in three years not even a romantic kiss.
2006-08-13 00:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by wantachevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, hes not worth wasting your life for
2006-08-12 21:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by aries:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋