Arrange a nice nursing home or care facility? Take her in to live with you? Find somebody else to pawn her off on? Please tell me if you are male or female, as I'd like to see if that shows as a difference. Thanks.
2006-08-12 13:50:43 · 16 answers · asked by Crooks Gap 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am male.
I had this happen to me.
My Grandmother lived by herself until she was 103 years old. She developed problems that I could not feasibly care for while working. If I had been retired I would have taken her to my home and had nursing care come to the house. As it was I couldn't retire and the rest of the family was in the same predicament. With both spouses working to keep the bill collectors away no one could afford to leave work. So we moved her to an assisted living home. She had some insurance, some savings, social security, and with help from Medicare all the bills got paid. It was much nicer than the average nursing home. It had group meals in a central location but each person had a seperate sleeping area away from others they could go to anytime they wished. They gave Grandma much better care than I could have at home. The rest of the family felt the same and she was happy there until she passed away in her sleep at 105!!!!
So you see, the price of living has changed the way families care for their elderly
2006-08-12 14:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work in a Nursing Home and if it was my Grandmother I would care for her at home. Although there are really good nursing facilities out there. The patient to aide ratio is a the worst of times 13 patients for 1 aide.
I'm a female
2006-08-12 13:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
female
in same boat right now with mine. Shes widowed and doesn't wanna live alone. Family members are taking turns spending the night but its getting very old. I think a great solution would be to find a FEMALE retired person who is independent but also doesn't like living alone and she can come live at grandmas house that way they can keep each other company. The only question is how do you find someone and know you can trust them around your beloved grandmother?
2013-09-26 07:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother doesn't speak English, and I don't speak German, so living with me isn't really an option.
She has lived in the same apartment (4th floor walk up) since she was a new bride in 1937 and it was only recently that my mother was finally able to convinced her to go to a care facility.
Although she thought she would hate it, it turned out to be the best thing in the world for her. She has new friends, get's dressed up for afternoon coffee and cake with the ladies, has air conditioning and is very happy. She says who knew the last years of her life would be so wonderful.
OK, did that really answer your question? I'm rambling a bit tonight.
2006-08-12 16:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Simone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Male - you could either move in with her,. or move her in with you -- If she needs a lot of care it might be better to get her into an assisted living facility close to your home so you could visit and take her out once in a while. That's the best of both worlds - she gets the care she needs and its convenient to see hera lot. Old ladies love that crap. I used to push my granny around the mall at top speed in her wheelchair. She used to love that. She thought she was a race car driver when the alsheimers was kicking in. It only sucked when she wet her pants. We would both be embarassed. If she's in a wheelchair you should take her to Disney World - you won't have to wait in any lines.
2006-08-12 13:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepy Mike 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I actually went to a junior college so I could live with my grandmother since she couldn't really be alone anymore. That enabled her to stay in her home two more years. After I graduated my parents built on another room to their house for her to live in. She stayed there until she passed away. I'm female.
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2016-11-30 00:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by bolinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with me but I would also look for a community that caters to people like her. There are some wonderful community centers that are nothing like the horror shops of the past. My mother was very interested in a place like this but she sort of waited too long to do it. Seems like it takes a lot of energy to get to kow a new routine and a new group of friends.
2006-08-12 15:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,,, when i was a young boy,,, the family took care of Granny,,, just like the Beverly Hillbillies.....lol...... now,, everyone wants to ship them off to the nursing home.......and never go see them....
I am a male.... I just finished taking care of my wifes mom,, before she passed away.... a few months ago..... my parents have passed away a while back....
good luck
2006-08-12 13:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I would not have sufficient time to care for an ailing relative, I would seek alternative care. However, I would ultimately attempt to comply with the wishes of the grandmother.
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2006-08-12 13:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by J to the P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋