2006-08-12 13:37:47 · 32 answers · asked by Unique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no let them find out and dont say anything because they will say why didnt you tell me
2006-08-12 13:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow...this is a very hard question. There are some pros and cons to each side of the story. (meaning telling or not telling) I always think to myself that if it was happening to me, then i would want someone to tell me. I think that if you know for sure, and you can prove it, and find a supportive way to tell the person, then you should tell, because this could be the only way for the truth to come out. There may never be another chance. Also, since you know, i bet it will weigh on your conscience every single day, and that will be very miserable. Also, its hard to know such a strong secret, and not worry about it, or feel kinda responsible for it continuing. The bad part is, sometimes the person you are telling tends to turn on you, because you were the barrer of the bad news. It can turn out a few ways, you can turn out to be a great friend who saved the person years of sadness, or you could be the great friend who is the bad person for meddeling in someone elses business. SO its hard to tell, To me I know i would tell, because friends are honest, and you do what is in the best interest of the other, and the truth may hurt, but its always the best way to go. So, it comes down to how you feel about it, if you think that you can handle the outcome of telling, then I think its the best thing to do. Even if it were to ruin a friendship (by telling) then at least you know in your heart that you did it for the right reasons. So just search within yourself and decide whats best for your relative. Sometimes it helps to put yourself in their shoes (well the best that you can anyway) and see how you would feel, and think about how you would react. So I hope this helps, good luck, and I hope everything turns out for the best. Take care...
2006-08-12 19:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I dont think you should tell. The reason is if the relationship is strong there woudl be no cheating and equally its not much of a relationship if the other person has not pucked up on vibes something is wrong. It will work through itself one way or the other you can be sure of that . I know it is awkward for you and have heard of times it has been done annonymously but think that very underhand. Leave alone though it must hurt you to do so.
2006-08-12 13:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all make sure you know what you say you know is true.
If you are right then go to the one that is cheating and let them know that you know and tell them to stop now or you will go to the other party and tell.No one should play around with someones heart.A broken heart hurts in so many ways much less what you can carry home to the other partner.
2006-08-12 13:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the relative... the person doing the cheating? Or the person... who is being cheated on? I say.... if it is your "sister" who is the relative.. and she is doing the cheating..... you tell her... "hey this ain't cool" & I would stop before someone gets hurt....and before... you blow it..... or maybe you already have.. I am here for you... but, I don't want any part of cover-ups.. My loyalties to you.. so I won't tell.. but, I want you to know how I feel about it.... If it is your "sister" who is being cheated on.. you march your butt... to her husband/mate and say.. I'm giving you 24 hours to fess up or I will.
2006-08-12 13:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Piper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly concerned about the well-being of your relative, go the to cheater. Tell them you know they are cheating or let them try to explain to you how you've got it all wrong.
Tell them you expect them to strop cheating or to tell this relative what they're doing. Or you will be forced to reveal what you know. Be prepared for the fireworks.
2006-08-12 13:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the cheating person and get them to tell their mates about it. If you are not willing to be part of the solution, then you're part of the problem (as the saying goes).
2006-08-12 15:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to the person who's doing the cheating. Let them know that you know what they are doing and that they should stop or quit their current relationship. Try to find out why they are cheating, there may be a reason.
2006-08-12 13:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Blackmango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would - but that's just me - I HATE adultery and hated that no one told me my mate was cheating on me. I was totally ashamed and angry that everyone else just let me get hurt.
But, I know others have the opinion that you could cause more trouble than needed... I still say tell - only if you are ABSOLUTELY sure!
2006-08-12 13:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough...If you don't tell and they found out you know then you'll be the bad guy (gal). If you tell and they break up-- you may feel guilty....who are you closer to? are they in law 3rd cousin type of related? Maybe you could tell the cheater that you know and that you want them to come clean. Or you cold stop hanging around them and tell them why. good luck
2006-08-12 13:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the cheating party you know whats going on. Give them a ultimatum advise them they have 24 hours to tell their partner or you will.
That way your not involved.
2006-08-12 13:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋