Just trying to get peoples' prespective on having a gay person coming on to you. Would you fall for the lust? or Would you turn it away and walk as far as possible?
2006-08-12 13:01:48 · 22 answers · asked by JC 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Personally, I, being a woman, have no interest in women-- and thusly... if a gay person came on to me, she'd be female. With my lack of interest in females in mind, I wouldn't "fall for the lust"-- but rather simply decline and explain the issue of my heterosexuality.
BUT~ if I was a MALE. And a gay person, a male one at that, came on to me, and I thought he was attractive... YES. of course i'll fall for the lust! BWAHAHA! (bear in mind that I'd have to know him first before I do any naughty things, even if we were both homosexual males)
ah. I hope a homosexual male comes on to me... but then I'd be worried about my femininity if a gay male mistook me for another male. Because I'm not. a guy, that is.
Hmm. interesting dilemma.
Well. I definetely wouldn't turn anyone away rudely though-- interested or not. If someone, ANYONE really, came onto me, I'd be flattered, but typically, I'd just politely decline, unless I was truly interested.
(sigh) to be a gay male would be great, now wouldn't it?
((personally am a squealing Queer as Folk fan girl))
Hope this answers your question.
2006-08-16 23:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Zyxxin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat them exactly as you would treat someone of the opposite gender. If you are interested, then reciprocate. If you are not interested, then politely inform them. This usually stops the vast majority of guys. However, if they persist in going for you and you are still not interested, then it is time to get mean.
You said "fall for the lust"? What do you mean? Do you want to try it out with a guy? Do you have some same sex feelings? That is up to you decide if you want to do that.
If all you want to do is blow your load - and you don't care who receives it - and the gay man is willing - then make a determination your self. Just be nice and talk with the person and let them know what it is you want.
2006-08-12 20:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you fall for the lust as you put it then you wanted to do it anyway but if your a Heterosexaul person who is approached by someone Homosexual I will tell you what I tell all my str8 friends "If you were approached by someone of the opposite sex that you were not attracted to would you go off on them or would you politely say, I'm not interested" it's the same thing. Most will step off, I mean there are some who don't take no for an answer and you gotta get stoopid with them but for the most part most folks take a no to mean NO!
2006-08-18 14:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by a_soul_singer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm flattered no matter who comes on to me. At this point in my life, I'm happily married so I wouldn't "fall for the lust". I'd turn down the offer politely (no need to walk as far as possible).
2006-08-13 00:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be flattered, of course! Mind you I am a gay man, but I am also married. I can look at the menu, but I don't order anything.
I've known many straight men that accept the compliment of being flirted with by a gay man. Heck, I've even
2006-08-12 22:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gay,but if someone who was gay was coming on to me,I would take it as a compliment that someone thought that I was a nice person,and I would tell them that and let them know I am married.I would do the exact same thing if some one from the opposite sex did the same thing.
2006-08-13 22:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thank them for the compliment like i do being gay and getting hit on by women. It is a total compliment but state your intentions on furthering the conversation. It is the mature rational thing to do.
2006-08-18 11:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Iguess its how small i am and how i dress like i am very young,,but i have had many girls approach me,,,but never had the nerve to follow up yet,,,but it makes me feel great....i like flirty girls.A bit different when a guy comes on to me,,,but then hes not gay if hes after me. Its still pleasing to have a dinner date with a guy,,,or catch a movie,,,but i never let that go too far.
2006-08-12 20:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Angie H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd be flattered, but then again, I'm gay lol. Honestly though I'm flattered no matter who hits on me - it's a nice boost to the ego to think I'm a good lookin guy =)
2006-08-12 20:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by JR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It should be no different than you would react to having a straight person come on to you. If you're interested, you give them your phone number. If you're not, you thank them for the complement, but assure them that your interest is elsewhere.
No big deal.
2006-08-12 21:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋