Okay, I'm a Christian, and my family is too. My parents just found out that my best friend's dad is gay and now they won't let me go over to her house anymore. It's totally unfair. They claim that they don't want to put me into a situation where a sinful lifestyle is encouraged and Im just like, "Ok, just becuz I go to her house doesn't mean I'm gonna come home gay." But they still say no. I think it's wrong, just because you dont agree with someone's lifestyle doesn't mean you have cut them off from you. She's been my best friend since third grade and we're now seniors in High School, we're just supposed to stop being close? We're like sisters. it hurts and I don't know how to tell her, "Hey, I can't go over to your house anymore because my parent's have a problem with your dad being gay."
2006-08-12 13:00:37 · 10 answers · asked by Hello,It'sMe 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh, and also, I don't agree with the gay lifestyle but I don't discriminate or disrespect gays. They're still people.
2006-08-12 13:01:33 · update #1
da ben dan: remember, I'm a christian, Im just one of the Christians that actually practices what I preach and I'm not affraid to admit I'm not perfect..my parents on the other hand...
2006-08-12 13:29:59 · update #2
Okay, just for the record before I get started. Christianity and homosexuality are not mutually exclusive. I'm a gay Christian and there are a lot of us. Some churches preach a different gospel than the one I have read, but that's for another discussion.
I think you need to tell your friend the reason you are not visiting her home anymore. If your parents believe the way they do, they can take the heat. If you didn't explain it to her, she'll think that it is YOU that is rejecting her or her Dad, and that's worse.
But I think while you are in your parents home, you do have to honor their wishes. You are old enough to reason with them, but they are still in charge.
2006-08-12 14:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you tell your friend what the problem is and then you do whatever you want about it....you are old enough that you can continue to see her with/without your parents consent...It's really ironic that your parents are so concerned about protecting you from a "sinful" life that they are forcing you to become much more involved in one. If they'd just kept their mouths shut..like repectable adults ,this situation would not be a big deal...now they've created it. And it makes them look pretty pathetic in life
. How do they justify intolerance and non acceptance and love into their carefully crafted little world.. It's too bad when you can't control life the way they seem to want to.
How silly of me...I thought religion was all about love, forgiveness and understanding!
2006-08-12 20:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are people, they are flawed, they are human. Amongst what I imagine are many wonderful qualities, they also are prejudice -- they have an irrational fear and discriminate based on it. That's unfortunate. Their directive is an effort to protect you even though it's irrational.
So, here's the thing. You are a senior. You are not a full adult, yet you are far from a child. You are old enough to take responsibility for your own actions. You are old enough to follow your conscience. You are old enough to recognize that your parents aren't perfect. You are old enough to respect them but also to be your own person.
I can't in good conscience tell you to defy your parents, but I can say that you'll be more at peace with yourself when you listen to your conscience.
2006-08-12 20:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be respectful of the rules your parents have set even though you find them unfair. You are headed in the right direction though and I am proud that you love your friend and are not judgmental about her family. You have learned at an early age that God created many different types of people. I feel that he did this to teach us compassion, love and acceptance of each other. Talk to your friend and let her know that your feelings have not changed. She is your friend and she will understand.
2006-08-12 20:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you and I don't agree with your parents at all. Since you are still a minor and live at home, it's best to obey your parents. You can still see each other at school and it wont be to long till you are an adult.
2006-08-12 20:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is not fair - get use to it. Your parents have wiped your butt , fed , clothed , and sheltered you for 17 years. I does not sound like they said you cant see your friend , just not at her house. Do you think the world revolves around you alone ? When you move out and pay your own bills do what you want to.
2006-08-12 21:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents to get a life. There are a lot worse things going on in this world they could be spending their energy on. You're an adult now, make your own decisions.
2006-08-12 20:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are under their roof, do as they say. When you are on your own and pay your own bills, then do what you want.
Thank you for the support anyway.
Just explain things to your friend. Let them know you still want to be friends and maintain contact.
Good luck.
2006-08-12 20:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have really crappy parents.
I'm so sorry for you.
My parents would never have been so afraid of other people.
God, I had great parents!
2006-08-12 22:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Spencer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are they jehovas witnesses or something
2006-08-15 11:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by crazzykid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋