2006-08-12 12:40:39 · 7 answers · asked by maya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was divorced at 20 with a baby...it is completely possible to live alone. Take care of yourself first because how can you take care of someone else until you know you can live on your own. I had to learn for myself that I didn't need anyone with me to be a great person and now I have been remarried for 5 years and everything is great...don't say CAN'T...that's the equivalent to a curse word in my house.
2006-08-12 12:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by stall_out 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is basic divorce 101 without all the details. You can file for the divorce yourself with or without an atty. Advisable to find at least a Paralegal to help fill out paperwork (yellow pages or University law dept) and to help with your questions. If you are civil with your spouse, it is advisable to sit down and work out the details, as this is cheaper and the judges love it, makes their job easier. Now unless you have been convicted or have charges pending on child or drug abuse,the kids are awarded to the mother, along with the house and support. Everything else is split however you two decide but if you live in a community property state and let the court decide,then all your assets may be force to sell and split the profit equally. Now divorces are usually no fault meaning that the courts dont care why or who files for divorce unless there is domestic violence. If so you can get restraining orders for protection. This is it without the details so hope it helps. I cant help you with living alone but you will have your kids and there is help available. If I can be of more assistance please feel free to email me. Good luck
2006-08-12 13:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't live alone, then find a roommate. Find a dog. Go back to your parent's for a while. Or stay with a friend for a while. There's people out there who care about you and will be there for you.
Do you not know how to divorce, or how to let go of him?
Do you still love him?
You should love yourself more than anyone else. Try saying that out loud. It should help! ;)
Good luck.
2006-08-13 01:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nina E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN live alone. You CHOOSE not to! There are always options. Not necessarily GOOD ones, but maybe BETTER. When people say there are no options, or they "can't" do something, it is because they want life to be a bed of roses. Why do you want to divorce? Think about that first and foremost. I am sure that looking back, you may see something you mised before. But trust me, YOU ARE ABLE TO LIVE ALONE. You may not want to, but you CAN.
2006-08-12 12:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by fabmaster6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of living alone or sleeping alone? In either case, get a dog. Hell, I left home when I was 18 and lived on my own for 10 years. If I can anyone can.
2006-08-12 14:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Carmen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that I totally understand your question, however, the fact they you are contemplating divorce should indicate to you that you were WAAAAAAAYYY too young to marry in the first place. Do you have children yet? Why don't you consider moving back with family if that's an option?
2006-08-12 12:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kayt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can't? Why? It's the best way for you to grow up.
2006-08-12 12:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋