we been going together for 4years and we fight everyday but i cant let him go becaues i love him not only that i think iam IN LOVE with him
2006-08-12 12:17:56 · 17 answers · asked by tweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
so what if you fight. the after fight stuff is good right, ive been married 12 years and we still fight so stay with him and remember the good stuff after wards.....
2006-08-12 12:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by punkinhead0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time to be dating, and a very long time to be fighting. What are the issues that have you two constantly at war? Imagine being married to someone that you fight with everyday. That would be so terribly hard to do. I am wondering if it is time for you two to part ways, and discover life on your own for a bit. Take some time off, and see if the fighting issues disappear, or if they are really personal issues with one or both of you, that follow you around, like baggage. This will better equip you handle things in the futures. Find out why you , and he, are angry, or resentful, and deal with it. Even if you decide to end things, try to resolve the issues, and apologize and forgive. You'll be doing yourselves a HUGE favor, and will be steps ahead of so many other people, who carry around the burdens of resentment with them their whole lives. You wouldn't really want to carry all this to your next relationships, would you? Resolve, forgive, and let it go. If it's worth saving, by all means try, but I think really, you need a break for a while. Good luck.
2006-08-12 19:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do fight every day, do you really think you'd be more miserable, in the long run, without him? Don't you think you deserve the chance to be truely happy? Life's too short to be with someone who repeatedly makes you unhappy. Obviously, when you think about the qualities you want in your "dream man" part of the description isn't "likes to make me miserable", "yells at me", "picks fights with me", or anything even remotely close to those. You need to believe in yourself and KNOW that you deserve to be treated so much better than your current boyfriend treats you. You CAN let him go. You WILL find a guy that treats you well, makes you feel special, enjoys spending time with you, and truely does love you. THAT guy will be the one who is worthy of your love and affection. Unfortunately, the guy you're with now doesn't sound like that guy.
2006-08-12 19:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by whydowehavetocreateasillyname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women make the mistake and think just because you been with this person for so long you got to make it work. Just ask yourself is this what you think you deserve? Maybe the two of you should take some time apart and rethink the relationship and go from there. They say if you love something enough let it go and if it is meant to be you will find your way back to one another. Good luck.
2006-08-12 19:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by fire84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call that "love" anymore. After 4 years you're probably just used to him, that's why you think that you're "in love with him." I think that you two need some time apart from each other so you can really think about what you want.
I know that it's easier said than done, but you should try to get to know other people. Being with him for 4 years doesn't necessarily mean that he is the one.
Good luck!
2006-08-12 19:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by loving_girl_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him, find out why you two are fighting all the time. solve those problem and everything will be find. I have a friend that date over 10 years. They argue the same things, they won't let go and they can't give each other up. so i am just telling them, arguement is good for a couple, that is how they grow, but don't keep arguing over the same problem. that way nothing get done. so solve your problem
2006-08-12 19:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is everywhere, and there are other guys out there that you can have a good relation ship with that you wont fight, If it was real love then the first time you had a fight with him should have been the last.
2006-08-12 19:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by susan j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the fighting is bothering you and you want to stay with this guy you need to try to find the source of the problem, and compromise more. If the fighting is that bad, is that something you want to put up with for the rest of your life?
2006-08-12 19:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your sure that you really love him then yeah.. u should.. and fighting is like part of a relationship.. it makes it stronger... and like u guys probably have ur reasons to why you fight so its not like u fight for no reason.. and 4 years is a pretty long time.. u dont really wanna give that up.. cuz u dont kno if another guy will come or not..
2006-08-12 19:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by love04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting is part of life try talking your problems out instead of blowing up
2006-08-12 19:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Crissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋