Help meeeeeee pleeeeeasseeee, I'm dying :(?

Question

I've fallen in love with a girl that I love so much. I mean I love her more than anything anything sooooo much even with all the things she does. but this really bothers me because she doesn't really pay attention to me, she looks interested in me, even when she speaks she pretends she likes me but when I invite her she rejects. I can't understand. help me please I'd rather get rid of this love but i can't. this is really going dangerous cause all of my life is going to be destroyed, I can't do other things the way I like cause all of my concentration is on this girl even if I don't want to.
How can I start a new life and forget about this girl? (I thought if time pass I'll forget about her but after 2 years I still have this problem. this is really bothering me.) help me pleaaaaseeee

I love her that much that I feel I can't start a new relationship with another girl! :( I feel like I'm locked. need a serious answer.

the fact is that she is my classmate so I'm condemned to see her & feel the same as past

Answer 1

chase after a different girl, right after you get a nice hobby

Answer 2

"Hello nmllll. I'm answering in hope of making some differences to effect change in your Obsession and Control delimma.
The first subject I want you to consider is how you communicate with everyone. You have written that you love her more than "anything anything."
Gosh nmllll, she is NOT an "anything."
She is an "anyone." You have written that you consider her a "thing." She IS a PERSON!
By writing "anything" you simply demonstrate you think she is an "object" that you absolutely must obtain at any cost.
Next, you write that "she pretends she likes me," but when I invite her she rejects. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE'S THINKING!
NMILLLL, you are just trying to CONTROL her! She senses your attempts and simply "rejects" them.
You are so "captured" by your lack of control you feel like your "dying." This is just another attempt your making, to gain control over her, by asking someone else to give you the required knowledge. OK, OK if your ready to "listen," anyone can help you if they wish. TOSS ASIDE YOUR ATTEMPTS TO CONTROL HER! You'll never do it that way.
You've written that you "can't do other things the way you like cause all of your concentration is on the girl even if you don't want to." Your actually "writing" that you decided not to do anything else but concentrate on her as an "object" to obtain. "It doesn't happen that way. You will never make her do anything you want by simply "concentrating" on her." It takes action!
Sincerely, if you still want to "acquire" her you will have to change how you think.
There's a book at your library called "Inside the Criminal Mind."
Go check it out and find if your pattern of thinking is your worst enemy or not.
Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 3

Love is strong. It almost distracted me so much that it was about to make me flunk out of college. You're infatuated. Love can ONLY exist -and I know it hurts to hear this- but if there is mutual love between two people. If she doesn't have time for you, she's not feelin you. I was in love with a girl who was my friend. I loved talking to her and I thought she was the cutest, coolest thing. Kinda nerdy but I liked that. She even admitted that she was a virgin and that made her seem even more desirable and innocent. But she became so buried in her work and my love for her kept hangin on for like 7 years, till I had to break it off - right after tellin her how I felt all this time and all the things I wanted to do to her - and then I felt a great burden lifted.

Answer 4

I wish there was a simple answer to this but, there isn't. If this is a high school thing then I know just what you are going through. The only reason I got over him was because he was older than me and when he graduated I didn't see him around as much so I had my mind on other things. I suggest you take up a new hobby or try to make some new friends. If she doesn't want to be with you then you HAVE to get over her. Nothing is going to change unless you try to change yourself first.

Answer 5

Here's some study notes: (more to come)

Love is not a thing


Knowing Love itself is self knowledge that rises above that which was. What was you is now past you, different. But if love is not differentiated in abstraction, then what guide is there for knowing the love from another. It is not enough that you love, but to know what it is as certainly as knowing all other constituents of human essence: psychology.

Here in summary form: Legend of symbols:

'+' = 'a joining', 'a physical contact', 'will to communicate', generally positive, not negating but positing, positioning, proposing...

'-' = a negation, taking a part, destruction, removal, exclusion, ....

Love without specifying relationship nor act specification: + + + +

Sexual activity: - + + + (the reason for the minus "-" is the breaking down for resistence in the form anxiety (drugs, alcohol, ideology), loveless sex has this uncertainty whereas love filled sexual activity has no such uncertainty or resistence)

Sadism: - - + + (this form of aggression has a psychological component that may described spiritual, superstitious, ideological. One '+' is for this 'spiritual component' and the other '+' the will or urge to get at the victim)

Aggression in the form hostility, anger: - - - + (the pure will to destroy, uncluttered with ideology, higher ideal, the unreality of superstition or supernaturality, no abstraction is possible, it is negated. The last '+' is the physical excertion upon the object, the sole but very limited contact with reality, the victim)

defense: - - - - (the will to escape danger, there is no component for contact, the negation desired is total and instantaneous, immediate, to flee, to avert the senses from the threat, ...)

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This is really two sides of one coin: you. Every human has basically two parts to their mind/spirit system: ego and anti-ego. These two parts of your self are in struggle and your ego ideal is in doubt, but really our ideal should change with our growth as learning humans. This struggle is the birth agony, the labour, for a new you. This 'girl' is the symbolic embodiment of your present struggle, lifes essence and purpose. I don't believe you shall acquire what you need from this one individual, but communicating with her may help in an ordinary way. Perhaps if you print this out and present it to her for a topic for dialogue, ask her for her opinion, this may help you to become actively engaged in your new project.

Out of the ashes rises a new person.

Answer 6

When you will finish school, I bet you will forget her soon. Maybe it will happen on your first day in college. Meanwhile, try to take it easy. Maybe you have an illusion that you love her that much, it happens with most people in young age. Unconsciously, you may want to try to prove yourself that you can really love a person, and if you do, that person will respond with love too.

If she does not pay attention to you, it is not worth bothering to pay any attention to her. Well you can try your best, but if that is futile she missed her chance, you know what I mean? You have your own life, and one of your primary goals is to keep your integrity and security. It is not worth thinking about a girl who does not care about your psychological security. When you find YOUR girl, you will feel secure with her and she will feel secure with you

Answer 7

OUCH - take a cold shower and then drop her a line asking her out. Tell her you love her - girls like that sort of thing. No idea why. The teasing could be playing hard to get. If you show disinterest then it may arouse her interest. On the other hand you may misunderstand her signals.

Play cards - you could win a lot of money.

Answer 8

you are not in love, you are infatuated. real love is what two people share. yours is one sided.

She sounds polite, but not interested. You probably come across like a desparate puppy.

What should be a crush has become an obsession--that's not healthy. Get help.

Answer 9

It needs only couple of minutes
But you should be brave. You have to play a drama
make yourself admit in a hospital in anyhow and she will hear the news
Next is up to you man
this secret is between us only

Answer 10

well, if she rejecting all the times its means shes moved on or about to move on she aint doing nothing but playing games with you. I too was in a situation like that longer than two yrs. you need to get her out of your life before it gets worse. the faster you get her out of your life the faster you can let the healing process take place. its gonna take a while but you will get over it. you know the old saying whet doesnt knoll you makes you stonger. it will . killing yourself, dreading over it or thinking aobut it wont do you any good. go hang out with your friends. drink, putt putt, play pool, do something to keep you distracted from thinking about her

Answer 11

You have asked the same question previously with the headliner "help me please" and know you are asking the same question againg except you added on "I'am dying".
You got a serious problem and you need professional help, which you can't get her. I hope you are not serious with those questions.