he is 18 and will be 19 in october and i am turning 18 on the 19th of this month.we our both maturing and we love each other we have been off and on for 3 1/2 years so far.his parents like me , but my mom is overprotective of me what should we do and he has a job and i am currently looking for one.what should we do?
2006-08-12 11:44:44 · 12 answers · asked by browneyed_kim 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
its been more on than off and we've always considered ourselves as a couple and so do pur freinds.he keeps coming back so..............
2006-08-12 12:06:13 · update #1
I know being independent and doing what you want is really appealing, but this whole moving in together thing always seems more glamorous than it really is while you are planning. When it is reality, it's usually not what the two of you were expecting. If you guys have been on and off for over 3 years, that should be a good indicator that you're relationship isn't stable enough to sustain such a major commitment. Moving in together can mean a huge strain on your relationship. You said that you don't have a job. Does he make enough to pay the rent until you find a job? Have the two of you agreed on how to split the expenses? If the two of you do decide to move in together just make sure you consider everything. It may be more stressful than what you think.
2006-08-12 12:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jen K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would learn more about yourself if you went away to college, or lived on your own for awhile than you ever would by moving from your parents' house to an apartment shared with your boyfriend.
Figure yourself out. Improve yourself. There will never be another time in your life (more than likely) when you can be "selfish" and do things for you.
I hate to rain on your parade, but living together puts more stress on a relationship than most any other situation. You may find yourself playing a role that far exceeds your age. You're 17. You should be having fun, not vacuuming, washing dishes, and doing laundry for you and your boyfriend.
Think this through. Weigh the pros and cons, and above all else: don't sacrifice your happiness or your goals for anyone!
2006-08-12 18:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by kwikane7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! No! No!
It would be a big regret.
Everything should feel right and you should have a commitment/agreements and plans for the future.
Your mother knows much more about life than you do. She is the one who knows you best and loves you totally and wants only the best for you. It would be wise to discuss her thinking and your thinking together. You are going to want and need your mom's support.
Here is a big hint: "you are maturing"
You Are Not Yet Mature
2006-08-12 19:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get an apartment, save your self some heartache and get married first. Otherwise you will probably end up pregnant, poor and he will end up leaving, since you are not married you don't have alot of rights and if he loves you so much he would marry you. Playing house is not a good idea and someone usually gets hurt. Respect yourself and he will to, if not well, take it from there.good luck hon!!!
2006-08-12 18:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ditto Lotusrain
Also, get the job before you do anything. Counting on one coming can be a dangerous thing if one does not come.
2006-08-12 18:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by stick man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES U SHOULD. I'll move in with my b/f when I'll be 18.
2006-08-12 19:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him how he feels about you bringing other guys into the bedroom.
2006-08-12 18:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
2006-08-12 18:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by danity.kanes_02 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move in together get thru skool have a kid nd get married
2006-08-12 18:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Puertorican Problem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first answer works for me
2006-08-12 18:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋