help me please?

Question

help me please, I've fallen in love with a girl that I love so much. I mean I love her more than anything anything sooooo much even with all the things she does. but this really bothers me because she doesn't really pay attention to me, she looks interested in me, even when she speaks she pretends she likes me but when I invite her she rejects. I can't understand. help me please I'd rather get rid of this love but i can't. this is really going dangerous cause all of my life is going to be destroyed, I can't do other things the way I like cause all of my concentration is on this girl even if I don't want to.
How can I start a new life and forget about this girl? (I thought if time pass I'll forget about her but after 2 years I still have this problem. this is really bothering me.) help me pleaaaaseeee

well, I love her that mych that I feel I can't start a new relationship with another girl! :( I feel like I'm locked. need a serious answer.

Answer 1

Remember this rule of thumb; if everything is perfect about a prospective girl or boyfriend, there is an explosion awaiting you. You need to do some more seeking, for your own good.

Answer 2

I'll try to help you out. First of all, women are a majority in this world and men seem to gravitate toward the ones that play games for some odd reason. Dump her and get over it. Even if she finally accepts your advances, she is going to treat you like crap until you finally get frustrated and leave.

I had a girlfriend like this and she was like you described, and she cheated on me but I accepted it because I had a girl. When I broke up with her; I met my wife and we've been married for twelve years. If a woman is high-maintenance or plays games, she only has one place to go and that's by the wayside. There are others that don't do this and are more deserving of your devotion. This will also save you having a PPO against you if she doesn't want your love. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

WOW nml; you've got it bad. The reason you have it so bad is because she IS ignoring your attentions. She is hooking you, whether she means to or not, by her disinterest. Men love the hunt and chase. Try this, ignore HER. Be nice, but don't ask her out. Maybe even go out with someone else and "run into" her by "accident". See if things change. If she asks you out, say no the first time. No matter how hard it is for you to do, tell her you have other plans, but you are free a week from then. This will be the test to tell if she is interested or not. If she is not then you need to get counseling, because you, my friend, are stalker material. No joke. If she is saying and meaning no, and you are still obsessing.....Dude. You need to get a grip on it, and I DON'T mean THAT way. I mean professional help. That is my word.

Answer 4

After two years it's time to forget this girl. Look around for other girls you may like. Take it slowly - girls don't like to be rushed at. Sometimes you need to look in the right places for your kind of girl - think about where those places might be. Also, just having a girl for a "friend" may lead to better things. Good luck!

Answer 5

the same thing happened to me... I just hooked up for the first time with someone I didn't wanted (his brother) cuz he is such a jackass but I got him out of my head! so it worked and though I made that wrong thing that I should be regretful for I see the good side..

I was so in love like you the last year in high school and it messed my grades so bad.. so don't waste your time cuz that you'll regret!!

And after you get to forget her.. you'll feel so goood!

So luck! and I hope you find another way out! hehe

Answer 6

I was kinda like that with this guy for bout 1 year after I grauated from high school, I just started doing a whole lot of things with my friends and basically took my mind off of him cause I know it couldn't be. Interaction is the best key! start now!

Answer 7

Hi there! listen to me, usually, it takes bout the same amount of time to get over someone,of that of the time you were together.you are probly semi-soul mates.What I would do,just continue to be this girls friend, and cool your engines.This way, you will be open for what ever she decides to do later.sometimes rejectin, feeds the fear that this person is loosing the other person, and put the fear in them (so to speak) date other gals, and make sure this girl u are so crazy about knows it. Treat them like queens in front of her. make her wish it were her.and remember, youre not going to destroy your life because of her.You might feel like it, but trust me, time heals wounds.these things dont imediatly go away. You just need to get her motivated, thats all. also, sometimes, ask her if she would like to go to the movies ect. with you and your date. I feel good about this.IM me, and let me know how it goes, kay kay?>??? my prayers and advice are with you. You have been blessed my "tella graph, tellephone, tella theresa one"

Answer 8

Get a new girl. Then you will probably do better. If not seek counseling maybe they can get to the bottom of why you let her control your feelings. Some people only want what they can't have and when they get it they throw it away and go for a new challenge. go figure:-)

Answer 9

You have cought Laveria. It is worst than Maleria. This girl I think is playing with your emotions. If you asked her straight, she will probably refuse that she loves you too. I think, she is waiting for the moment that you ask her and she refuse, so you directly ask her whether she loves you or not, that will bring the end of this situation in which you are passing days. If she says no, then to hell with her, and if she said yes, then go ahead.

Answer 10

sounds like hard to get. but stick with just talking and being her friend. If this relationship/friendship is destructive you just might have to go cold turkey. yea its gonna be hell for a while but there are girls out there that can give you want you need and vise versa.