I still have a relationship with my x husband. Is that sad or what? he lives about 200 miles from my kids and me, we visit each others houses and have family time together just like a married couple then we part. is that weird? we still fight but just normal spats nothing at all ugly like when we lived together. anyway what do you think about it? oh I might add neither of us date other people.
2006-08-12 11:30:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two should consider the idea of going back together. I guess you still love each other.
2006-08-12 12:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better question, ..... what does this arrangement mean to you? How does it make you feel? From an outsiders point of view, it looks promising as a posssible reconsilation goes, with everyone still acting like a family. All that has changed is the living apart, and the divorce. If you are not looking to reconcile then you need to encourage him to do his own thing with the kids and not expect you to be a part of his plans. When two people divorce sometimes, the other one has been such a constant figure in their life, they don't know how to live or move on with out them. This might be your case. Nothing has been "weird" since more and more people get divorced each year. I see every case scenerio you can imagine. People do what they have to do. And so will the two of you. I hope a "happy ending" for all your family.
2006-08-12 18:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is weird about it at all. Its so great you guys still do things together for the family especially since you have KIDS. Thats the most important part, especially since you guys live a good distance from eachother. If you're having a hard time, maybe you could send the kids by themselves once in a while or drop them off? Try to go out and date other people, but don't bring every new man around your kids.
2006-08-12 18:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't moving on because you aren't moving on!! Come on you still have a relationship and still play big happy family, what else could possibly happen? Something done needs to be done if you ever hope to move forward. You are both trying to let go without really letting go, its safer that way but it isn't good for anybody. All you are doing is keeping each other from moving forward and finding a new relationship. It won't change until that stops.
2006-08-12 18:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are divorced for a reason. You are seperated now so get over it. You don't fight as much BECAUSE he is 200 miles away now and you can't yap and nag him all day every day.
It's good for the kids to still have family time but they need to get used to you apart also.
2006-08-12 18:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all unusual. Have you heard the term "separation anxiety"? It may apply in this case. You can't live together, but you can't be apart at this time. You both will eventually be able to accept being alone. However, if neither of you are being harmed, your relationship is okay.
2006-08-12 18:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should think about getting back together permanently ! Sounds like you 2 still love each other and you have a family. Work it out !!!! Go to a church and renew your vows, it'll help bring back the "new" love. Good Luck and Take Care.
2006-08-12 18:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get along great with my ex, too. We see each other only when the kids are involved. We don't have to live with each other and deal with the little issues that grew into big ones. We can just say "good bye" and leave.
2006-08-12 18:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it sounds like you have an amicable breakup. That is always best for the kids involved. My suggestion would be to start building relationships with others, simple things like coffee, lunch, etc. Then can you begin a life that you want for yourself.
2006-08-12 18:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Gilligan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it did not work the first time, it probably would not work the second time around. Just start going out. Have a few dates, they will probably suck and then just focus on yourself for a while until you meet the right guy for you.
2006-08-12 18:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋