have you had children at a young age?

Question

I am alot older now but i had my first of four children at age 15, pregnant at 14 why do so many people think young mum's make such a bad job of parenting. Eldest child now at secondary school and har teacher said quote "i thought you would grow up naughty because your mother is so young" unquote. My eldest child is maintaining all grade a to c's so why don't people just understand that young parents do just as good a job at parenting and all of my children have the same father.

Answer 1

bravo love
u tell em
i was 18 when i had my first im now 24 and trying for my 4th child
my sister was 14 when she had her first though she is still with the same guy 15 years later and the have 3 children aged 13 , 10 and 4
who cares what people say or think i live for me and my kids f***evryone else
and if a teacher would have said that to my child i would have punched her
ignore other peoples comments and carry one being a good mum
besides look at it this way you will be able to go out clubbing with your kids when they are older because you will still be young enough
take care xx

Answer 2

I had my son at 19 and i get it alot, hes happy healthy, great looking and well clever, and so people assume iv had alot of help! I would of liked to of been older yeah but it happend and i am a great mum, i dont know why people put such a downer on young mums. Being young doesnt necessarily mean the kids gonna be thick, its not as though we don't know anything. I completed college when my son was only tiny and im now a qualified graphic designer, but people don know that nd judge me on being a young single mum who at the moment doesnt work...not through lazyness but purely because i want to give my son the best start in life by being here for him.

Ignore everyone, be proud, your daughter sounds like shes definatly somone to be proud of.xxxx

Answer 3

Hi, i was pregnant at 15 got 2 teenagers now, between me and my partner were on a healthy income, my kids always get good reports at school and I'm still with the father. Life is what you make it, i went back to college whilst the kids where young, we had very little help financially and emotionally but we had to do it for the kids. some how we've managed, we were only saying the other day how teen parents are usually portrayed as unemployed lay abouts. Fact is i chose to have the kids therefore i had to do the best by them. to be honest i don't think I've got as much patience now as i did then , so lucky i had them when i did. some tell me i'm just a one of the lucky ones but fact is i had to work for it. love my life. love my family and wouldn't change a thing

Answer 4

I don't think that society necessary thinks young people make bad parents, but there are a lot of people that believe you cheat yourself by having a family young, i.e. you lose your childhood, have to grow up quickly and become a responsible carer, don't have the chance to go off travelling and see the word, or work towards a career and well paid job; so therefore won't be able to support yourself sufficiently or own your own home....

There are lots of preconceived opinions about women who have children before they should legally be having sex. - Lets look at it this way, would you like your daughter to have a child now and have her future mirror yours? Or would you like her life to take a different path, and if so, why?

Well done on bringing up four children, it sounds like you have done a fabulous job, and that you are very proud of your daughter.

I think the teachers comment was unprofessional and unnecessary.

Answer 5

That's not the point, you were irresponsible and breaking the law by having a child at 15, which I wouldn't be proub of. Seems that's society, now. But it seems also they were brought up ok which is good, but make no mistake: That they all have the same father is no miracle, it shouldn't be such a great thing, it should be standard.

Answer 6

Great job on raising a good child. I had my first at 19 and my own mother tried to convince me to have an abortion. A lot of people having kids at a young age aren't ready for the responsibility. I commend you on being a parent that cares especially at that young of an age. I agree with a comment earlier also...if that were my child's teacher I would pull them out of that class and make sure that the principle knew what type of teacher he has.

Answer 7

I was 16 when I had my first of 2 children.

I was able to finish High School and get a job. I am now 23 and have a 1 year old as well.

Some people just think that all young people are irresponsible and can't care for themselves let alone another human being.

Answer 8

I`v not had children young I was 28 years old but my mum had me at sixteen and then another 3 by the time she was 25 I am now 32! I think she and my father whom she is still with did a fantastic job! Don`t think that I as a mother of one could do nearly as good a job as they did! sounds like you are doin a fab job yourself of bringing your kids up! I would`nt bother about what people think! I personally did`nt want kids at all but obviously love my wee girl, so I don`t think it matters what age u r when u have kids! keep up the good job.

Answer 9

I had 2 children by the time i was 18.When i 1st had my children i used to get looked down on and i hated it, but now im just seen as a mum...My eldest is going to secondary school next year.Both my children's teachers say they have been a pleasure to have... Its been a pleasure bringing them up,my children are to the same man and i love being a mum.My partner is working and i have 2 jobs............We can prove them wrong !!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Henry VII's mother had him when she was 13 or 14 and look where he got!

I think a lot depends on the parents and the support that they get. I wouldn't have been mature enough at 20 to have the responsibility of a baby so you should be proud of what you (and your partner and your children) have acheived.