My family is so wierd. I live with my dad and younger brother and younger sister who all hate me. My dad is a complete idiot. On weekends he makes me go to dinner with him and his girlfriend and then brings her to our house and sleeps with her. I get in huge fights with him at least twice a week. My mom is kind of strange sometimes and has breakdowns every few years which I try and fail to prevent. I am a good student and play sports, but I hate my homelife......
2006-08-12 10:58:35 · 8 answers · asked by ojndoanj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Most kids hate our homelifes, that's why we don't live with our parents forever! You can survive this; just try to stay out of conflicts with your Dad, even if he's wrong, saying Yes Dad, goes a long way. I am sorry that he brings his girlfriend over and sleeps with her at house. He is showing you a disrepectful relationship, I hope that you will take the lesson and see that you want a stable life with one person who loves you, you can move out when you grow up and have a nice life, just believe in yourself and you will get through this!
2006-08-12 11:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by chieko 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awww, honey that sucks that you have a screwy homelife, but you know what? I don't care who you are, what race you are, or even if you THINK that your family is perfect.....the reality is no one is perfect and every family is dysfunctional and has problems to some extent. Just take this as a learning experience. Watch how screwed up things are, take note and realize that you don't want to be like that. DO SOMETHING. Be the one to break the cycle. I know a lot of kids use that as an excuse or as a crutch in life so they fail because they blame everything on their homelife, I can tell that you aren't that way. It sounds like you are a good student and keep your self involved in sports and around positive people. Keep doing this an don't stop. Don't let your idiot parents or siblings make you feel like less of a person than you are. You know you are a good person and you know at least one thing....you don't want to turn out like either one and that you want better for yourself. So that is all that matters.
Do you have another relative you can go stay with or possibly live with while things are rough? An older sibling or cousin or friend? What about a part-time job, or club, or hobby to get you out of the house and away from the situation? How much longer do you have in school until you can officially get out or go off to college? Keep that as a goal for yourself, that when you finish school you can finally get out.
I'm sorry, parents can be stupid, but just realize this, they are human beings too and they do make mistakes. Have you ever talked to your dad about his behavior and that it sickens you? Maybe he doesn't realize that you are actually smart enough to figure out what he's REALLY doing with all of his "women" friends that he goes out on dates with. Maybe you can come to a compromise. You shouldnt' be going out on dates with your dad...that's weird why would he have you do that? How old are you? I guess there are more questions I have for you before I can give you better advice as what to do. Just hang in there and know that no matter how normal a family looks on the inside, everyone has their problems and that you are not alone.
2006-08-12 18:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear all that...I always think that things at home could be worse. Just keep doing good in school and be the best that you can be. Time will fly by fast and pretty soon you will be out on ur own. Do stuff with ur friends. Are you old enough to get a part-time job? Tell ur dad you don't want to be there when he sleeps with his girlfriend. Just stay busy with sports and school and you will be fine. Trust me it won't always be like this. That is what I use to tell myself! Keep faith!
2006-08-12 18:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix all the worlds problems, so don't try, you'll just wear yourself out. You need to not involve yourself too much with your dad on the weekends, tell him that you don't want to go out to dinner with him and his girlfriend, and that it is very akward for you when he sleeps with his girlfriend.
About your mom, you can't do anything about her breakdowns, but when it does happen, just be there for her, and she might need some psycaitry is she breaks down a lot.
Just tell your family straight how it is and how it makes you feel.
Good Luck!
2006-08-12 18:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for your mothers breakdowns#1. And as far as your home life with your Father I am sorry you are so unhappy,but hang in there put your energy into your school work and sports get involved with all the extra stuff at school there is to do and get involved with church you can find a whole family there in church who will love you and nurture you.God Blessings to you.
2006-08-12 18:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your dad hates you. If he hated you, he wouldn't take you out to eat on the weekends. I honestly think you should be greatful that you don't have abusive parents or are homeless.
2006-08-12 18:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what you got to do is get a good job, get the right man, get a good place to live then have kids and show your parents how you didn't end up like them.
2006-08-12 18:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by da skoolar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm concentrate on ur studies and make ur own future..... the day is not far tht ur father will :) ask you pardon :)
2006-08-12 18:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋