2006-08-12 10:57:53 · 31 answers · asked by marcy w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to trust that you won't get hurt again. But don't worry, I went through the same thing and I found my soul mate the second time around. Be patient but not afraid. It will take awhile to, pardon the expression, get back up on that horse again, but don't give up! Love, once you find it, is really worth it! And now that you have the experience it will be easier to spot what traits in men you really don't want this time around so this time the man you choose will more than likely BE a keeper!
2006-08-12 11:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey not everybody is the same, yes you had a bad marriage but dont give up just because the one bad guy. Do you want the life you had in mind you were going to have? Then have it, go out and live it, You may be looking for the right guy in the wrong places, try somewhere new. Get a hobby and this way you will meet someone that has your same interest. Good luck.
2006-08-12 18:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got burned and don't want to go through it again. You need to have some faith in yourself, you need to realize that you survived and you could survive it again if you had to, that should make you stronger. Take your time, apply the lessons you learned from your divorce and don't rush in to anything. If its been ten years you may want to get some counselling to help you sort it all out and put it away for good. Its basically just someone to talk to that can see things from the outside looking in, the view is always much more clear from there. Good luck!
2006-08-12 18:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marcy, I can understand about being very cautious about getting back into a relationship. I got burned in a bad way by my first wife and i went for 3 years without dating. When i did start dating it was a long time before i could make a committment to live with much less marry again. But i have to tell you, i found a woman who was understanding of the trouble i had before and was so patient with me. We were together for 6 years before i felt like i could say "I do" again. We have been married to 6 years now and i enjoy every day of it.
2006-08-12 18:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As simple as this sounds you just need to be yourself. Perhaps take some baby steps to build good friendships, and then from that perhaps a relationship. You don't need to rush things. Think of this moment as a new beginning for you as the lady you always wanted to be. Do not sell yourself short, look your best, dress your best, pamper yourself. There is nothing more of a turn on, from a male perspective then a confident, well dressed, well manicured lady that has morals and definite goals. And most of all, don't forget to have fun.
2006-08-12 18:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Gilligan W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life (and love!!) is all about taking risks...if you're going to hide from it, it will definitely pass you by. Not all people out there are the same and therefore the experience will never be the same. Experiences may be similar, therefore you think carefully about this and allow yourself to reach out to the world...one person at a time. Go on now!!!
2006-08-16 16:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by divaA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had a long enough rest - time to live again. Find yourself a nice partner and go for it. It can be even better second time around because you've learned to take things easier, listen, and you know what you want and don't want. So go for it and have a good life.
2006-08-16 16:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced for 8 months, can't WAIT to get married again (to someone else)! I'm still all for marriage...just need to make sure it's with the right guy this time!
2006-08-13 03:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Incognito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ten years is a long time it must have been difficult for you,try and clear your mind its time to move on with your life now,you don't want to look back and feel you mist out on life.
there is a lot of good men in this world so go for it, your past experiences will see you through good luck i will be thinking about you.
2006-08-12 18:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by m.provan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably like me dont trust any more, Ive been divorced for 16 years, met someone else 10 years ago but never get married again?
2006-08-12 18:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by paula p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋