I am going through a painful divorce. I can't seem to get over the heartache & pain. Everywhere l look I am reminded of my ordeal. Can hypnosis help? What are the drawbacks if any?
2006-08-12 10:51:05 · 10 answers · asked by mari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no shortcut. You just have to go through it, there isnt an easy answer. Don't you think that if this was a practical solution there wouldn't be a hypnosis shop on every block in the country? Just erase all the bad, my dog got hit by a car erase it, my friend passed away fix it...people would never feel anything but they would never learn anything either. Its the experiences in your life that shape who you are and if we just avoided them all what would we be? What you need to do is take control of your brain, imagine what you want you future to be, make it real in your mind then get there. Everything is about what you tell yourself, change the things you tell yourself...instead of painful reminders see opportunites for new things. The end of a marriage is a lot like a death. You have to be willing to allow yourself to move on.
It takes time, but time in itself doesn't fix anything, its what you do with the time that counts. if you spend that time doing nothing but thinking about what was yesterday that is how you will spend your tomorrows. You have to grieve, but give yourself a limit, after that push yourself forward, no matter how much you don't want to, keep busy doing things that make you happy, at first it will serve no real purpose except distracting your brain, but eventually you will find joy in them again.
Take care of yourself physically, make great meals just for you, don't start eating junk just because its just you eating it, read some great books, listen to great music, DANCE (nobody can be sad when they dance) even if its home by yourself, shop, spend time with friends and family, volunteer in your community with people or dogs if you prefer. do the things you gave up for your relationship. soon you will find yourself understanding what went wrong and ready to try again. good luck, be patient with yourself, and remember it will get better!
2006-08-12 11:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hypnosis, according to people who believe in it, doesn't erase memories. It brings them back to the surface so they can be dealt with. If you're still going through the divorce, the problem is just time.
I learned something from my divorce that has helped me ever since. Do whatever it takes to end it cleanly and completely. If it means you spend money, lose a favorite couch, or whatever- DO IT. Those things are just things, and the sooner you get this behind you the sooner you can heal.
We all know people who never got over their divorce. I think it's like letting a wound fester because we're afraid to cauterize it. If you had gangrene on your foot, would you dither until you died or would you amputate?
Remember Old Yeller? He was a kick-*** dog, right? He even saved that little boy's life. But Old Yeller got rabies. Nobody wanted him to, nobody loved him any less, nobody blamed him. But the dog's got rabies. This is where you're at. You're the little boy, and Old Yeller is your soon-to-be ex. If you could make time go back, or find a cure for rabies, you would. But you can't, so you end it with speed, resolve and dignity, then cry your brains out for a long time. Then one day, a long time from today, you might see another cool dog and not cry, or maybe even think about getting another one.
Divorce sucks. It's painful for the all the obvious reasons. Only time and distance can heal you, and only if you don't tear yourself to pieces fighting over petty injustices.
2006-08-12 11:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Tezca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a horrible car accident several years ago. An 80 year old man was driving down the freeway the wrong direction. My best friend was driving and we collided head on. She was killed instantly. I went to some counseling and they tried hypnosis. It felt good going and talking to someone about my loss; however, I don't think that the hypnosis helped at all. Talking to a counsler was much more effective. Good Luck and hang in there. THis to shall pass.
2006-08-12 11:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your painful divorce. Going through this isn't easy,for both parties this is for sure. About hypnosis to erase memories,I don't think this is plausible. But,if the pain is to much for you,a counselor will do wonders for you...good luck in the future. Try and make the weekend something nice. Treat yourself to something special!
2006-08-12 11:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-20 17:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by bess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about what is going on. If you go to my web site improveyourselfhere.com you will find a CD tittled Heartbroken NO MORE that was made especially for what you are going through.
I can tell you that I have worked with handling painful love situations and they are successful with hypnosis. In addition to the CD you may want to look for a therapist in your area. If you go to www.iact.org they may be able to help you find a therapist in your area.
There is a really good book which I have used techniques on patients and they get dramatic results called Instant Emotional Healing by Pratt and Lambrou. It may take longer (because you have to go through the book) but the book is worth it. If you have any questions, contact me through my site improveyourselfhere.com Good luck.
2006-08-14 08:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hypnotist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definately that can help.
One simple exercise is to think of the bad memories, picture them in your mind, then shrink the images down, turn them black and white, fade them away far into the distance, then bring up big happy lively colourful images of how you want things to be in the future - happy and full of life.
A free hypnosis download is available that you might find useful at the following site.
2006-08-13 07:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by internetoptimiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of therapist using hypnosis to help deal with memories, I'm not sure they can truly erase them. If sadness could be easily erased, they'd be selling the concoction at Walmart. :)
2006-08-12 10:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by chieko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart you don't need hipnosis all you need is the Lord only he can get you through this terrible ordeal. Just be patient and time will heal your wounds. I know thats easy for me to say but it really is true, you'll see. Everthing is going to be all right and later you'll find yourself saying I really learned from that terrible time for the better. God teaches us things in mysterious ways, it may be painful it may feel good but we always learn for a better life and more knowlege, it's just up to you to use it. let me know if I helped.
2006-08-12 12:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by fruitstream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2017-02-17 12:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by wanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋