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i am 16 and recently found out i was pregnant, i haven't told anyone yet. it was my first time and the condom split, i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years but i dont know how to tell him or my family. plz any suggestions and plz dnt judge me

Answer 1

I am not going to judge as I was 16 when I had my first child.

I was going in for a normal check up at the Doctors (I figured I was pregnant by then and had my parents with me). I told the Doctors (when my parents were outside the room) that I thought I was pregnant and they did the test.

The Doctor then told my parents for me. I knew that my Dad was going to be upset but he managed. He was very happy to have a Grandson!

I know it's going to be hard to tell them. But if you can't trust your parents then who can you trust?

Answer 2

First tell someone who can 100% keep a secret. Just to get it off your chest and know that someone else knows about this. Thats will help you get the courage to tell parents becuase you sorta had a practice run. If you're parents are loving and understanding and good parents, they will be unbelievably dissapointed at first - it will be chaos - tough - but TIME will heal and it will work out - my parents LOVED thier granddaughter the day it was born - all the dissappointment went a way from that point. You're young, so its a BIG decision but it can also be a blessing even if its a tough road. Adoption is an option and a tough decision. Just dont worry too much - you have a little person growing inside you thats might end up being the most wonderful thing in your life!

Answer 3

Ok- pros, at least you TRIED to use protection. Good on you! Some girls don't even use condoms and then wonder what to do when they get pregnant.

Are you positive you're pregnant? Did a doctor confirm that?

You need to tell your parents. Have you at least told your boyfriend? Hasn't he asked since the condom broke? He has to know it's a possibility now, right?

No, it's obviously not going to be the easiest thing in the world, but A) you can't hide it for very long B) you'll need as much support and love as you can get. Think things through!! You're parents and boyfriend may insist on abortion, may insist on keeping it or may insist on adoption. Only YOU can decide though. Being a teen parent isn't easy, it isn't even easy as an adult. I had my first two at 21 and 23 and I STILL had trouble being "too young". On the other hand, I can't imagine carrying a child for 9 months and then giving it up could be easy either. You need to think of what would be best for the child if you keep it though.

Good luck to you

Answer 4

Hey,, Try not to worry about it, go to your doctor and have a chat with her and then she can talk you through options. You really are very young to have a child, but it really is your decision at the end of the day, you wont be judged not by anyone. If you tell you parents, it will be hard at first, but you ll find that they will be very supportive especially if you have been with this boy for 3 years, talk to your parents or doctor first before you tell your boyfriend, as it is hard to talk to a 16 year old boy about pregnancy. Dont leave it too late either, make an appointment to see your doctor as soon as, it will all be confidential or your local family planning clinic, there should be one where you live or nearby. Be strong and Take Care x x

Answer 5

That's tough because the people you are going to need most may have an initial negative reaction due to their concern about you. First, you need to tell the bf and then your parents. You want to make sure you are going to the doctor and taking care of yourself.

Remember that you are not the only 16 year old to ever get pregnant. Don't let anyone push you into anything you aren't ready to make a decision about either---be it marriage or what to do with the baby. However, the sooner the people who matter to you know, the faster you may get support. You really dont know how your family will react until you tell them.

It's normal to be scared. (I was when I found out and I was married already.)---

I'll be praying for you.

Answer 6

Hey sweetie first of all dont stress about it too much its not good for you. Im 19 and im due any day i would say just sit down with your family and your boyfriend and tell them i know your young but its the most amazing miracle and feeling in the whole wolrd i didnt know i could feel like this unless you fell an abortion would be better just tell your boyfriend its hard to go through that alone i myself am against that if your boyfriend truly loves you he will be there for you and help you decide what to do good luck!

Answer 7

First things first, you need to tell your boyfriend.

I was pregnant at 19, and, since we knew they'd be more accepting, we told my boyfriends family first. He told them by showing his mom an ultrasound picture.

I told my mom when she was on her own, and it didn't go over well. She pressured me to have an abortion, even though I am totally against them, but eventually she came to terms with it. She told my dad and grandma (who I'm very close to), and they both took it a lot better than I had thought.

Now my son is 6 months old, and I can't imagine not having him.

Please think about adoption if you choose not to keep the child. Abortion may seem like the best route when you're afraid, but many people go on to regret them very much. Especially if they have other children later, they will see babies everywhere and imagine what their child might have been like, had they not chosen to kill it.

Good luck, and it will all turn out better than you think it will right now.

Answer 8

No judging here. Things happen. The best thing is to tell your parents. As scary as it is, it is more important to get proper health care for you and the baby. Prenatal vitamins are sold over the counter. Ask a pharmacist which one is the best to take. I hope your boy fiend and your family will be supportive. Remember your parents may be upset with you, but the anger will not last forever .They are your parents and I'm sure they love you unconditionally. If you are too scared to talk to them. Make an appointment with Planned Parenthood right away. They can help and answer questions. You do not have to be an adult to be seen there. They help with teen pregnancies.Good Luck.

Answer 9

Just tell them. You need to know who is going to support you and if you tell them, you won't have to always be worrying about telling them- at least you'll know how they have reacted rather than wondering how they will react.
Expect some harsh reactions-I was 22 when I got pregnant and still got some nasty comments from family members, but I know that things were a lot better for me when everyone knew about my pregnancy, and eventually they accepted it and were very supportive. I hope that you encounter the support you need.
You need to be brave and get through this. Things won't be worse than you imagine they could be.
Good luck

Answer 10

First, sit down alone and think about how you feel. Do you want this baby? I personally am against abortion so I will not tell you to do that, but you have to decide how you feel. Are you against it, or would you want to give the baby up for adoption. Or keep the baby. This is your choice. Noone else's. Don't let anyone force you to do something you don't want to do.
With that being said. Now how to tell everyone.
If you have been with your boyfriend for this long, then I would try to sit down with him face to face and tell him about it. Privatly. When you have plenty of time to talk about it. Tell him how you feel and find out how he feels. If he is going to be there for you the whole way or not. Once that's overwith. I would then find a good time to sit down with you family. Only you know how your family will react. Do you talk better with your Mom or you Dad? Maybe you will want to have a private talk with one of them first before bringing in the other parent. Or maybe you will want them both there at the same time. Just remember, you parents are going to want to know what you are going to do. They will expect you to know that already. And they might even want to make the decision for you. But don't let them. This is your body, your baby, and your guilt for the rest of your life. Not theirs.
You are already pregnant, and you can't turn back the clock and un do it. The phrase "There's nothing to it, but to do it" really applies here. The more you think about how to tell them or what to say, the harder it will be to say it. Just tell them, we have to talk. Privately. And then just let it out. Once you start, the rest will follow. My older sister was 16 when she had her first child and my younger sister was 15. I remember when my older sister told my mom. My little sister and I were trying to listen under the door. lol. And my family was very mad. But they calmed down. And did what was necessary and now I have a great nephew. He is 13 years old now though. And my little sister had a girl who is now 10. And they both say they were scared at the time but are so glad they kept their babies because they are their lives. They both have families and husbands now as do I. And children are the meaning of life. Take time to think about all the decisions you have in front of you. Think about giving this child everything you can. Breastfeeding, and bonding with him/her. Raising this child the best way you can and reading everything there is to read so you know all that you can.

Answer 11

the best thing to do is find out where your boyfriend stands. tell him that you are pregnant. see what his reaction is. have ya'll talked about a future together? have you decided what you are going to do with this pregnancy? after you know where he stands, go together (if he stands by you) and tell your parents together what you have decided to do. I know that this is not an easy thing to do, but you have to be adult about it. I mean, you ARE going to have a baby soon. Gotta keep it real and start acting like the mom that you will be soon. try finding out about federal assistance for you and your baby (food stamps, medicaid, etc.), go see your doctor once you have medical insurance...let your parents know that you are going to be responsible when it comes to having a baby at such a young age. Good luck and God Bless you and your decision.