Hello me and my husband have been together since 1999 and have been married since 2001 and he has always been mean to me like pouring ceral on my head or smacking across the face and about 1 year ago I kick him out. we have 2 kids, (2 1/2 and 5 years old) He moved out I filed for divorce, he snuck in my house in beat me up. And after a month or so I took him back. Like something crazy. Anyways I also slept with one of his friend while we where seperated. Something else crazy. Anyways that was my way of getting back. Now I can't just get past him beating me up, he still is mean but now just verbally. And I am not in love with him. I just don't know what to do. I am 23 years old and feel lost. He just nit picks all the time. I always worry if he is going to get mad over something. I have tried to fall in love and I just can't . He never appreciates anything. I mow the grass, take out the garbage, everything. And also clean house and take care of kids. I stay hateful towards him,plz,help.
2006-08-12 10:48:35 · 16 answers · asked by cbrannon22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why ask?
I doubt your smart enough to take wise advise.
Stay there and get abused. you seem to enjoy it.
2006-08-12 10:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. You cannot stay with a man like this. Leave him and take the kids with you. If you cannot financially do that, I'd say file again because that is beyond terrible for a man to do such things. I would leave him in an instant...especially if you cannot fall in love with him. There are MUCH better men than him. Also much better fathers, better examples. I'm sorry for everything!!
2006-08-12 17:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay in a marriage if you no longer love your husband. You definitely can't stay in one where there is abuse of any kind. You don't want your kids growing up thinking it's okay to disrespect you, this is what they will learn if you stay. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you, I'd hate to see anyone waste their lives living in misery. If he hit you once it's only a matter of time before he does it agian. Don't wait around for that to happen, you should just leave.
2006-08-12 18:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to respect yourself more then that,I would never let a man hit on me, and im not about to take any verbal abuse either, In the first place if your SO BAD, that he puts you down and hits you why don`t he leave? because he KNOWS he cannot do others like that, and your the only one who will put up with it. how dare you raise your kids, to think this behavior is ok. you will lead them to believe they can do the same when they are adults.
2006-08-12 18:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hope of loving a man who beats you. You are young
get that divorce. Live single single with your kids for a while and find a guy who appreciates you.
2006-08-12 18:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a no brainer... Even if your husband didn't treat you as bad as he does you shouldn' stay married if you're not in love with the other person...your only hurting yourself and your spouse in the long run.
2006-08-12 17:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort somewhere out, try get bit of cash together and go and dont tell him where you have gone ever, move away, leave a note saying why you have had to go because of his unresonable behaviour. Can you go to a safe house somewhere. he does sound like a physco. Think its gone beyond trying to sort this out.
2006-08-12 18:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast and as far as you can. You sound like a good woman, there will be a man who would want you. I would love to be with a woman who sounds as nice as you and I am a nice man. No don't stay with him one more day longer then you have to. There is a good man out there who will want you.
2006-08-12 17:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get tired of being a door mat / punching bag, you will move on. Thing is if you have no respect for yourself, no one else will either, including your kids.
2006-08-12 17:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He slaps you, snuck into YOUR home, verbally abusive and beats you up??
You KNOW what to do. Now do it... today before he kills you and your children are raised without their mother.
2006-08-12 17:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Rayn71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most states there are "no fault" divorce laws. once he has abused, he will do it again. file again and sstick to it this time. keep your knees together until divorce is final. then find someone besides his friends to date and maybe marry. i wish you well, babe.
2006-08-12 17:55:36 · answer #11 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋