I am very obsessed with my boyfriend. I feel like I always have to be with him or speak to him. Am I crazy? What can I do to stop being so obsessed. We love each other with all our heart. What can I do to get better and not be so obsessed. I know for a fact that he would never cheat and neither would I. Please help me!! I need some answers!
2006-08-12 10:37:55 · 20 answers · asked by Justine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am currently taking medication for depression which doesn't seem to be doing the trick..Please help!
2006-08-12 10:38:26 · update #1
I don't have any friends. My boyfriend is my only friend! :(
2006-08-12 10:44:09 · update #2
There's nothing wrong with being like that. Heck, I'm obsessed with my gf. Almost every day this summer I was with her, and when I wasn't I was either on the phone with her, or trying to fall asleep to forget that she wasn't there. You just love him. There's nothing wrong with that. If you want to be less obsessed or something, I understand, because it can kinda get a fella down when he can't be with the one he loves. So if you want to do that I have a few suggestions.
First, a job. Getting a job is a great, constructive, mature way to get your mind off your partner. And you get paid. :) You're always busy at a job, always doing something, very little time to sit and think about anything. It also is going to get you away from him more often and that way you won't be as used to always being with him. You will have to act happy at your job since it's more polite, and once you start acting that way, you will start feeling that way. I'm talking about working at something like a grocery store, or maybe a resteraunt. It worked really well for me.
Second, a sport or hobby. Basically the same thing except you don't get paid, but you'll be keeping in shape if you choose to take up a sport. I suggest a non-contact sport, that way you won't be encouraged by the coaches to get angry nearly as often. Anger is a negative feeling and it will only feed depression and it will make it worse when you aren't with him.
Third, go ahead and keep on getting together with him really often. Bringing friends, like a double date, helps you avoid doing anything, whic will only add to your obsession, but it still lets you be with him and hold him and love him, and you will be glad for that. If you try to stop seeing him as much, you won't care about him any less. You'll only be hurting yourself that you aren't with him and that will make things worse.
I hope you have the best of luck working things out. Remember, what you're feeling is perfectly fine, in fact, it's good. That's how you are supposed to feel. It leads to a happy relationship that will last. You just may wan't a little less, which is also fine. Remember not to try to think of his flaws or try to find things you dislike about him like the person a bit above mentioned. BAD idea. Totally ruins your day. You sound like a caring person who loves the person you're with. Don't do anything to change or ruin that.
UPDATE
I just re read my answer and realize when I said 'get a fella down' etc. It sounded like I was calling you a guy. My bad, I was getting to into the answer.
2006-08-12 11:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-24 22:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Yes we have all been there. It sounds like maybe you are a little insecure about the relationship, and thats the reason you are so obsessed with him? I dunno. I know when I've been insecure about a man/relationship, i tend to obsess. I would also guess that its depression as well. I could see that. Maybe there something else going on...like perphaps you are unsure about where YOUR life/career/future/health is heading, and instead of wondering about that or working on that, you are using your boyfriend as a way to "think about something" else? I dunno. I had something similar happen to me, and i figured out, i didn't wantt to think about an ex boyfriend. And jus to let you know, it does take a few months for antidepressants to kick in.
I would say in conclusion; are you either afraid of something else that's where this obsession is coming from, or you are insecure about this relationship...b/c either you were betrayed in the past by another (ie; friend, parent, sibling, ex) or even by your current boyfriend. Good luck.
2006-08-12 10:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by C 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's nice to love someone, but you can't be too clingy or "smother" them with it or it will drive them away from you. If you suspect this is due to depression or intense paranoia, call your doctor or therapist and tell them how you're feeling. You may need to switch meds or adjust. In the meantime, try and give him some space and enjoy your time without him either alone doing something you like, or with other friends.
2006-08-12 10:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all get off the medication. you are not crazy. if you spend too much time on him. you will soon fail at other areas of your life,simply because all your time is spent on him. try to focus on other important issues in your life. like work. or school or a hobby.
good luck. and don't take the drugs. you really don't need it. you just make your doctor and the pharmaceuticals rich.
2006-08-12 10:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
LIFE GOES ON NO MATTER WHAT THE OUT COME IS. YOU WILL BE O.K. . BUT, FEELINGS GET IN THE WAY AND HAVE A WAY OF ALLOWING YOU TO THINK NEGATIVE BEFORE THE POSITIVE. THAT WAY OF THINKING REALLY SUCKS. YOU MUST GET YOURSELF, YOUR SELF BEING THE KEY WORD TO LEARN TO RE THINK BETTER THOUGHTS OF LIFE AROUND YOU.LOOK FOR EVERY WORST CASE SCENARIO AND BEST. YOU'LL FEEL BETTER. HOPE THIS HELPS. IF YOU NEED TO TALK .................
2006-08-12 10:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe try contacting your doctor and seeking professional help. You might be feeling needy and having your boyfriend fill a void in your life.
2006-08-12 10:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is your first love. I was the same way! I don't know what to tell you. It may be a case of emotional codependency also. Does he get aggravated with you?
2006-08-12 10:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could hang out with some girlfriends every now and then or find something like a hobby.
2006-08-12 10:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could be obsessed because you need a medication adjust meant. talk to your doctor
2006-08-12 10:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋