If you look in the paper to see the baby section, why are there more single mothers now than say ten years ago

Question

Why is it more acceptable to raise a baby from a single mother these days than a decade ago? What causes the world's acceptace to people having sex before getting married anyways?

Answer 1

People are much more open minded than they were 10 years ago. A lot of things are better accepted now than they were then. And hey- women are becoming more independent... if they are not being treated right- good for them for doing it on their own!!!

Answer 2

Do you think this is a brand new concept of having sex (and children) before marriage? The reason it is more prevalent now...is that women aren't "pushed" into getting married when they find out they're pregnant. So much stigma was placed on an entire family in previous decades if they had a daughter have a child out of "wedlock." The family would encourgage their daughter to get married and the men were also encouraged to marry her. What a happy marriage THAT makes!

Now we realize...two people shouldn't necessarily be married if they are compatible enough to have sex. Sex before marriage has ALWAYS been happening, how the aftermath was handled happened differently. Now it isn't a problem for women to have children without a man...some by circumstances they can't control and some they can. Women have access to a higher education and better paying jobs so they are not dependent on a man to support their child. It is still a hard thing to have to do emotionally...but women are more financially capable.

Answer 3

Being a single mom is nothing new, of course. There may be more single moms now than before, but it's hard to sat because there was so much shame associated with it in the past. Families often disowned unwed moms, had them put into asylums, or forced the girl to give up/abort the baby.
Nowadays, things are much better. Single moms are, more than anything, moms. The fact that they aren't married can definitely create more challenges for all involved, but nowadays shame and being shut out of society is much less prevalent.

You mentioned sex before marriage being more acceptable nowadays. Don't fool yourself that it didn't happen all the time in the past. Our sex drive is stronger than any other instinct we have, even including self-preservation. Women and men have been having sex in and out of marriage forever. What marriage does is hopefully create a stable structure to raise kids in. But as you know raising kids and having sex, while very connected in some ways are completely separate issues in other regards.

Peace.

Answer 4

Because most of the GIRLS ( and I mean girls under 18 ) are out doing things they shouldnt be doing. But look at it this way, at least having the baby, they did not abort it, and they think maybe the father of the baby will be around. Or they watched too much of the Maury Povich show, and wants to be on sometime asking for help in finding the father of the poor little innocent baby that was put on this earth to suffer.

Answer 5

it is not more acceptable to raise a baby from a single mother these day- but it happens. Girls these days have babies for all the wrong reasons- they want someone to love them and vise versa or they want to be with the in-crowd. "if my friend is having one then so can I" is the mentality of these teen mothers.
these kids now days lack respect for themselves and guidance from their parents. Times are hard nowadays and often parents have to work 2-3 jobs just to make ends meet. As a result, these kids are left to care for themselves and face situations that they think is okay but it's not.

Answer 6

lol have you ever considered the fact that as it's much less 'shameful' for single females to be mums these days the papers are probably reporting more of them, and statistically the number may not have changed at all?

i don't know if this is the case, but it's another angle worthy of consideration.

there have always been unmarried mothers, it's just that they're not as embarrassing to their families as they were in the past, and so it's not kept hush hush as much.

society as a whole is changing. as it should. there are less confines re. how we should live our lives, and it seems to be more accepting of one parent families and step-families.

you could also cite that there are many more divorces these days too. a lot of that is down to the fact that couples don't have the same social pressure to stay together as they used to. which is better for the children, as the saying goes: 'it's better to come from a broken home than to live in one.'

Answer 7

cause now days its babies havin babies and teenagers dont want to be parents, they want to live their own lives and a lot of male teenagers cant handle bein a dad at 16 or so,,, anyway i wish they would learn the great gift of waitin tell your married, that is so special to be able to give to your other half,, its really sad to see single moms,, but some single moms do a dang good job and are amazin mothers

Answer 8

i think that it may be a little more accepted because some (grown up) women can make it on their own. they have a good job, its maybe a personal decision. or some women/young women may have been raped and not had the choice to abort, their are soo many factors that can decide whether a women will be a single mom or not. i don't think that its right the rest of us to judge them, you do not know the whole story and it could be a lot darker than just being a 'slut' as some may say.
some people also do not have religious restrictions, or their up bringing may not have taught them to respect themselves. so please stop judging and mind your own business!

Answer 9

Well, I was a mother before I was a wife and I think it is because more men and boys don't want to face up to what they helped do. It is easier for them to walk away and say, ain't mine as for a woman she has to carry the baby and obviously be there for the birth, she can't just up and say it ain't hers!

Answer 10

I was in high school from 1973-1977, and there were tons of girls pregnant, a lot dropped out, and a lot had their children at graduation, one girl had four, but she already had the first one when we were freshmen