Help!!!???

Question

i have a HUGE fear of staying home alone!!
i am afraid someone is going to break in and either kidnap me or kill me!!
HOW DO I GET RID OF THIS FEAR???

Answer 1

Talk to someone about your fear. Did something happen in your family or in the area you live to make you fear this?

Try talking with your mom and see if some precautions can be done to help make you feel safer (add deadbolts to the doors, extra locks or alarms to the windows, etc.).

I looked your profile up and you're in 8th grade it says. You're still young and even adults have similar fears. In one of your questions you mention that you live in an apartment. The bright side of that is there is usually fewer windows for someone to break in.

I had a niece that had the same fears. She eventually "grew" out of it, but that's not easy to do either.

Make sure you have a cell phone, if possible, that way you can keep it by your side and have it programmed with emergency numbers in it. Maybe talk to the police department and see what pointers they could give you to make you feel better too.

There are specials on tv all the time too about abductions and how to stay out of situations where they may happen.

Don't open your door to anyone when you're home alone. Even if they say they are supposed to pick you up or do something in the apartment. If they say they are apartment workers, then call the desk and ask if someone was sent down or tell the person to come back later and if they protest just tell them you're calling the police and do it!

If someone is bringing a package to be delivered, don't open the door for it either. Tell them to leave it and do NOT open the door to get it when they leave. Wait until someone comes home to do it.

If someone would ever get in your apartment or even if you're out someplace and someone tries to force you to go with them do not do it. Turn and go the other way, scream, yell, kick, punch, whatever you have to do. Do NOT let them take you to another area. Even if they have a gun, run as fast as you can. If they are in a car following you, go the opposite direction as fast as you can. It takes them awhile to turn the car around.

If you think someone is breaking into the apartment, run to a bedroom or bathroom, lock the door or push something really heavy in front of the door and call the police immediately! Better yet, have that cell phone that you have programmed and push the button for the fast dial as you're running to the "safe" area.

If you have a window in that room that is safe for you to climb out of you can do that too.

You need to take charge of the situation and get some information and feel comfortable with it. Again, talk to mom or some other adult you trust. Give the local police a call and see if there is someone you can talk to there of if they know of a class you can go through to teach you self protection things. They should know if there is anything around. Check out the local library and see if they have any information on you too.

Once you get the information you need and feel comfortable, maybe you could teach other teens what you've learned to help them feel safer too. I gurantee you, you are not alone!

Best wishes!

Answer 2

You know what? I'm 38 and I still get scared of that sometimes. You would think that having kids would help, but it doesn't - it makes it worse because I fear for them too. When I get the creeps, I start by making sure that everything is locked and all the blinds, curtains etc. are closed, then I turn on a lot of lights and the television (not to anything scary, preferably an old movie). Then I make some chamomile tea (very calming) and read while the tv keeps things from being too quiet, and eventually I fall asleep. I find that all of these help a lot, and I hope they help you too :-)

I should also mention that if you are a young person who is home alone, don't answer the door. When someone is on the other side of the door, even if it is for a legitimate reason, and they know that someone is home, they can get very persistent about trying to get you to open it. It's just human nature to expect the door to open, so if you are nervous, just don't answer it. DO answer the phone, and if it's for your parents tell the caller that your parents are unavailable and take a message - do not say that they are out, just not available. And please talk with your parents about your feelings - little things like a portable phone can make you feel a lot safer - cordless is good, but a cellular is better because that will always work, even if the power is out or the land line isn't working. You can lock yourself into any room and use a cellular. If possible, maybe they could have an alarm system put in and that would make everyone feel better because that notifies police and fire.

Answer 3

I feel your pain. My biggest fear for the longest time was that somebody would break into my house at night while I was sleeping. These are typical fears, that many people have. The first thing that you need to realize is that when all the doors and windows are locked, it's ok. And unless you have enemies, I wouldn't be worried about the killing part. The only way to get rid of ANY fear is to face it. Just keep yourself occupied. Don't let yourself dwell on the fact that this type of thing could happen. I stayed home alone bunches of times when I was younger, and now I live alone...and guess what? I've never been kidnapped or murdered. Praise the Lord! There is hope!

Answer 4

I get this alot during the year when it gets dark fast and what I try to do is surround myself witht things going on like the Tv and radio and turn on a bunch of lights and keep checking to make sure the door is locked etc..... if it gets really bad I lock myself in the bathroom with all of the lights on..


but to get rid of it I would just try trusting the fact that it wont happen as long as you keep the windows shut and the door locked etc. and If you lock the downstairs and garage doors then It may help as well... other then that try getting a dog or a roommate

Answer 5

Think about things logically, what is the chance that someone will break in? If someone did break in, what would you do? You might even use questions like these to help you be ready incase someone does break in. Then you wont have the fear because you know what you would do. I hope I helped, good luck.

Answer 6

how often do you have to stay alone? if its overnight, see if you can go to a friends. If its after school, just lock the doors and windows, and stay alert. Chances of a break-in are slim. I used to hate to be alone too, but now that I am a mom I LOVE it!

Answer 7

just dont freak out you will be okay. Trust me.!!!!! just go and lock all the doors and shut all the windows and just try to relax. call a friend or have a neighbour come over. no body like to be home alone its all in your mind. watch a movie or tv and before you know it your parents will be home. you be okay.

Answer 8

Pray... God provides your protection whether you're at the mall, walking down the street alone after dark, crossing the street, or home alone... Because you're never REALLY alone... God's everywhere and will continue to take care of you...

Answer 9

dont answer doors or the phone. pull all of the shades or blinds down and lock everything .. thats what i do because i hate staying home alone at night

Answer 10

go get a base ball bat and keep it by your side lock all the doors tight and close the windows and the blinds invite a friend over if u want and let them sleep over and never play with ouija boards u can let the dead in your house