Im "straight." How can I approch or experiment with some guys my age (late teens to 20's)?

Question

I just need to have an experience to see if I like men, because I am not sure if I am bi or not. Just how and where do I do this? I would only do this with guys my age. But how do I even get to the point of sexually experiementing with some?

Yes I get turned on by muscular guys and jack off.

Answer 1

Go to a gay bar. You might have to try a few before you find one you like.
Try a bath house - be sure it is on an active night
Post on match.com or craigslist. Insist on pics.
Go to a gay lesbian community center.
Hang out at a gay friendly coffee shop.
Try a book store.

** When you enter any kind of establishment that caters to gays you will often see free literature/magazines on gay activities in your locale. Take a moment and read through it. You will learn a lot about what is going on.

If you think you might want to receive anal start stretching your *** now with fingers and other objects. Get an enema before - use feminie douche or a water bottle. Have lube and condoms on hand.

No matter what the tell you - no oral or anal with out a condom.

Get tested for aids at least once a year.

Get hepatitus a & b shots. They are free - offered by many charities. But you need all 3 doses over 6 months.

Best wishes

Answer 2

At this stage of your life, I doubt that you are gay. You might very well be bisexual though. If you are in a loving relationship with a woman, I would say, acknowledge to yourself this attraction to men but do not act on it in a physical way. If you feel that you must experiment, do so intelligently. Don't do so in an unsafe place. Also have a game plan so you can pull back from this whole situation if you feel that the lifestyle is not for you.

Answer 3

Hey dude, not sure if the gay bars are a good way to figure this out but, I guess its a idea, Not sure were you are from but in my area its not a option anyways, I think your best luck would be at a gay dating site of sorts. Again location can make a BIG difference. But there are bi sexual and curious yahoo groups also. But as always becareful and play safe ! Peace and good luck

Answer 4

#1. Be safe!
#2. Depending on where you reside, you may go to a bar or an adult store. There may be peepholes that you can use as well. I assume that you just want the sexual experimentation, and an adult book store may be a more direct route! The bar is cool, but there could be more pressure because you may feel in a more gay environment. At bookstores/sex shops, there are quite a few married guys who want to have some gay fun too.
#3: Be safe!!! (I know, it is like #1, but it is serious!)

Answer 5

Hi, 'Sexualities' can be confusing when we start out. We tend to think in labels (gay/straight) but human beings are far more complex than that. Before you "do" anything - study, think and talk about it, ideally with other people your age dealing with the same feelings. here is a list of bi- youth resources:
http://www.outfordemocracy.org/connect/biyouth.htm
And if you do get to point of "experimenting" play safe!
http://www.gay.com/health/hiv/?sernum=2908
Good luck

Answer 6

look at some gay porn first as a test run. If you really like it and find yourself more pleasured than other kinds of porn, that's a good place to start. I will ocassionally look at straight porn but gay porn, for me, works the best.
if you really want to have an experience (but only AFTER you have tested your response) go to craigslist.com and click on men seeking men, and your city and state. there are men there looking for exactly what you want.
but I would really hold off until you are SURE, on a physical and emotional level, that you want to have sex with men and indeed are ready for it.
PS boo to all the haters. you will just make more kids turn out like I did, and cut themselves and try to die.

Answer 7

If you are in college, join the gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgendered/questioning (if they add any more words I will scream) group on campus.

If you are in a major city go to a local gay and lesbian community center.

Or advertise for friends in something like yahoo personals -- as male for male.

Or go to chatrooms (but be sure to be safe if you have sex with those guys)

or, what about friends, if you are anywhere in the north where more of the gays are out -- you must have gay friends.

I had straigth friends ask me to pleasure them way back in the dark ages when I was a teen and young adult. Ask one of them if you have any. If he turns you down, ask another.

Its easier than you think.

*hug*

Believe in yourself.

Kind thoughts,

Reyn
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http://www.rebuff.org

Answer 8

I don't think that you are gay, you could be what people reffer to being Bi-sexual, which, there's nothing wrong with that, I know acouple of friends who like bi-s and they don't see anything wrong with that.

Try not to restrict yourself to guys your age only, what if its what they're also looking for someone to experiement with, try someone who might have the experience, but be safe, and who knows maybe its just "your call," and it'll pass and probably not like it. Don't look for the time or person it'll come to you, just be ready. And maybe you should try a gay bar if it makes it easier for you, just try not to be picky......................Ok

Good luck, and please let us know how it went.

Answer 9

Find a way to hang around with some guys you think might be interested in helping you answer that question. Drop some hints. Be cool.

Answer 10

Jump into the mix. You have to go head first, decide if your a bottom or a top, and whats your limits. Then your good to go. Its better to experiment with someone you dont really know, but you know they are safe. Then if you didn't like it, you can forget about it.