Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do??? I have no older sisters, but I do have a friend that is 18, I just don't want to annoy her with all my problems.
2006-08-12 10:11:08 · 7 answers · asked by Truthordarelover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My friend is also always at work and stuff, so I don't even know when a good time to talk to her would be anyways.
2006-08-12 10:17:29 · update #1
It vould be that you are just now starting to really "miss" her. You were so young when it happened, I'm sure you felt the pain, but now that you're older, in many ways, you'll miss her more since this is "that time" that most girls rely on their mothers.
My father died when I was younger, and it wasn't until years later that it truly hit me, so i can understand. For me, it was the times when I needed answers that only he could provide, but he wasn't there and it made me grieve all over again.
It does get better. Until then, don't feel bad for turning to others. If they feel "annoyed" then they'll say something, but true friends will probably want to help in any way they can. Some might even feel flattered that you chose to turn to them, because it shows you have respect for their opinions and who they are.
2006-08-12 10:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by helpplz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The teenage years are the hardest of all and now is when you need your mother the most. 8 yrs.old was a time when you may have even gotten mad at Mom for dying. Are you close to your Dad? It's not quiet the same but there are some Dads that help a lot. You're 18 yr. old friend can help you some but she's really not much older than you so her help will be limited. Still-she knows your situation and might be able to help you. She might even sense some of what you're going through and feel like a big sister to you. What about her Mother? An Aunt? It should be someone you feel close to and feel safe with. Maybe even a school phycologist. You'll probably get lots of advise and help on this site. Remember you will always miss your Mother but it will get easier and she knows what you're going through. Talk to her! She's watching and listening!
2006-08-12 17:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mamaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't be annoying your friend, because she is your friend she'll be happy to listen.
You're going through an extremely hard time with growing up,school, puberty etc, and that is difficult enough without having lost your mom. Be the strong girl you can be.
If you feel like you need help, talk to a bereavement counsellor who will be able to help you understand what is happening.
Please don't suffer alone, sweetie, find someone to talk to. You owe this to yourself.
2006-08-12 17:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably, partially, because in so many aspects of your life you will need her even more now! Like when you have peroid problems, and when a boy trys tries to do something you don't want him to, and later on in life, when you think that HE, may be the one, and when you give birth or adopt your own child. as you grow up, more and more questions arise that you don't want to ask your dad! i will be glad to help you in any way i can, and just find a good woman that you know, and you can talk to her at ease about anything!
2006-08-12 17:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend that her mother died when she was young and i never got annoyed with her when shewanted to talk. i enjoyed it actually i knew she didnt have ne other woman in her life. dont feel like a burden im sure your not bothering her
2006-08-12 17:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by lil' mama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked this eariler so i know you must really feel bad. Just talk to you're friend and just tell her that you just would fell better if you talk to her aout it
If you need someone to talk to email me I will be happy to talk thecoolman@taa.zzn.com
Good Luck
2006-08-12 17:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u r angry she left u....i totally understand that. she is still in ur heart, it's a good feeling....
2006-08-12 19:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by [dANiiE♥♫]™ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋