I am pregnant. I am only 14. I need help.
Should I do abortion?
Should I just try to do miscarriage?
Should I just let it be?
2006-08-12 09:49:12 · 18 answers · asked by ~Major~Prep~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i am 100% sure that i am pregnant. we went to the doctor and even saw it on a screen
2006-08-12 09:54:52 · update #1
If you do not want the child, don't abort.
It's not the child's fault that you didn't take precaution in having sex. I would have the child and give him/her up for adoption.
2006-08-12 09:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey...first of all, I'm sorry you're going through this. But please listen to me...when I was 14 I was raped. I did not get pregnant, but you have to understand that at your age, you think you know what is right and are easily influenced. Don't take this as an insult...I'm just telling you what I know. I'm 21 and am undergoing therapy for anxiety and depression all stemming from that one incident that I had suppressed for years. My point is...if you abort, or try and miscarry, you will be doing mental damage to yourself that you may not think will affect you now, but trust me, it will. And anyone who suffers from severe anxiety knows you don't want it...I went to school with people who got pregnant at your age. I know you feel that it's embarrassing, but it can be done. Don't be ashamed of yourself. People have sex at your age. And anyone who tries to say they don't are just trying to appear moral. You're human. You make mistakes. It wasn't the smartest thing for you to have sex this young, but it happened. And you got pregnant. You need to tell your parents. That will be hard, and they will get angry and probably yell at you and call you names...but you have to do it. I would suggest you carry to term and either keep it in the family (raised by your parents or another couple in your family-aunts, uncles, etc.), or adopt it out. Some people may think it's just a bunch of cells right now, but it will become a human being just like you. Do you know what the #1 regret the elderly have? Not having children, or not having more children. Think about it...you see these shows on television all the time...people being reunited with their children that they gave up for adoption, and it's a happy moment. Then you have the people who come on crying and talking about how horrible their lives have been ever since their abortion...have you ever seen a show that women have come on and said, "Yeah, abortion was great! I'm SO happy!" NO....I think that when you are older and are a WOMAN you will look back at this and still have your sanity if you have your child. If you abort, you will live your life asking, "What if?" I know this is not how you imagined it...but the sooner you look at it in what's good for you in the LONG run...the better. Regardless of what happens, you should definitely look into birth control after the pregnancy. And remember, what happens in your life NOW will affect you in ways you can't even imagine later in life. Good luck, honey. Keep us posted...
2006-08-12 17:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by FlutterbyBaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since it will probably ruin your life, I suggest getting an abortion at a free clinic. Besides, it's not just your life you'll ruin, but the baby's. A 14 year old mother? Wow, poor child. I think abortion is the only humane thing to do. At this point it's just a cluster of cells. It's not a human yet. It's no different from your period expelling the egg if you didn't have sex.
And in the future, don't be so careless eh?
2006-08-12 16:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it be. Don't try to miscarriage or abort it. It isn't the baby's fault that you got pregnant, and you now have to live with that fact. If you think about it, abortion is murder.
2006-08-12 17:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell an adult about this immediatly! Having abortion isn't a good thing to do, its very risky!! You should have the baby but make sure you have someone to help you take care this whole situation!! Dont do it alone cuz its not easy and you can really hurt yourself and your body~~ my prayers go out 2 you sweet heart
2006-08-12 16:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by lusciousgurlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the baby but put it up for adoption and keep in touch with any family who adopts your child. you'll be saving you and your baby's future by doing that. tell your parents and I'm sure they'll understand (after they freak out). and make you feel reassured. tell the guy you did it with about the pregancy and if you continue to "do it", use a condom. and make better decisions next time. you learn from your mistakes!;)
2006-08-13 04:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Holly♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is murder- - - wrong choice.
Miscarriage is up to God. If you choice to hurt yourself or your baby to miscarry that is still murder.
Adoption is a good option. There are many families that would love your child and take care of your medical expenses during your pregnancy. Your baby would then be loved and cared for for all its life. Choose life, please.
2006-08-12 16:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats too bad. I think you should give the baby up for adoption.
Good Luck
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2006-08-12 17:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do abortion....you never know wen a newborn will be the first to find a cure for cancer....just let it be...or simply get it adopted by some1 else...i wouldn't recommend it cause then your conscience will go crazy. Do what you feels right.
2006-08-12 16:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told your parents? does the guy know? your choose all depends on if you want the baby or not. my sis got pregnant at 14 and she kept the baby and she's doing fine. just don't do something you'll regret
2006-08-12 16:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋