My college orientation is this week and I'm wondering if anyone has tips on making friends for the coming school year. I'm on the shy side and have trouble sometimes making friends and being relaxed in these social situations. Any advice would be great.
2006-08-12 09:39:51 · 13 answers · asked by Ed5532 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't worry, I am like that too. I get sooo nervous around new people, but you have to realize that these are the people that your going to be seeing for quite a while. Despite the shyness you have to get out there and get to know them. Trust me, you'll see someone there that hasn't been talked to yet and you'll notice each other. The same thing happened to me- I was nervous as all get out and I saw this girl leaning against the orientation building that seemed kind of sad. So I walk over, turns out, no one was talking to her. I was the first one. Now we are the best of friends. You just have to be ascertive, no matter how shy you are, you've gotta try.
2006-08-12 09:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by medabrana06 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just take a very relaxed attitude to college orientation. Be friendly and try to chat with some people (I'm shy too, but I pushed myself to be more chatty at my orientation). These are the obvious things. The most important thing to remember is: DON'T assume that the first people you meet at orientation are going to be your friends at college. Rarely, I've heard stories of people who met at orientation and became good friends. More often, the first people you meet might be nothing like you, and you'll meet your close college friends in the weeks and months to follow. I met some nice but flighty sorority-type girls at my orientation and was kind of disheartened. Once I was settled in the dorm, and in classes, I met friends who were much more like me and really great people. Don't expect your orientation to present you with instant friends (and likewise, don't be worried that it probably won't). Good luck! You're going to love college!
2006-08-12 09:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I started college, I was really nervous about orientation too.
At my orientation, they did a bunch of "get to know you" games in small groups. It was kind of silly, but it actually worked. We all got to know each other by laughing at the lame activities. I met a bunch of people because just like me, they were looking to make connections at a school they knew no one at.
If they have the get to know you games, just make it a point to be open and friendly. Everyone responds to people like that!
2006-08-12 09:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by cutiewithabooooty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and greet people the same way you would in any social situation. Since there people are strangers to you, talk about what you have in common with them, school courses. From there you can go to a different tangent and talk about others things when the conversation get really rolling. Good luck.
2006-08-12 09:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that everyone is brand new there. Just like you, they dont know a single person there and they are a little unsure of things too. Use that to your advantage and get in with people while everyone is forming friendships. Once you get past the beginning youll love it. Trust me, youll be fine. College is much better than high school. Good luck my friend.
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2006-08-12 09:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Smile! Carry a few packs of gum, if someone looks approachable, whip out the gum, have a piece and ask them if they would like a piece. The follow up with your name, major, dorm, where you are from or whatever and most of all, ask them their major, where they are from.
Draw them into the conversation, and if someone look like they want to join you to...bring them into it.
Before you know it, you will have new friends and you will forget you are shy.
Remember, most of the people will be just as scared as you are, a smiling face will be a welcome sight to them.
Now enjoy. Smile, Be Happy, Study, Be Careful. And remember these can be really great years for you. Enjoy them!
2006-08-12 09:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try Myspace. As much negative publicity as it's gotten it's not that bad. I've met a lot of people on there that go to the same school as me.
2006-08-12 09:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by rudolph228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds corny, but be yourself and play up your strengths. If you're funny, people like to laugh. If you've got a class you know you'll be good at, offer to tutor. People are drawn to those who are willing to make fun happen. No one wants to sit in their room and study, so my advice to you is to just talk to as many people as possible, and be up for anything. (My sister is a smash at her college, because she kept dragging people out of their dorms in the middle of the night for impromptu basketball games or flip-flop fights - which is as stupid as it sounds, but it worked). As long as you're laughing and having fun, people will want to spend time with you. Goodluck!
2006-08-12 09:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Discotheque 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i,m shy too.. but how i make freinds is i go and talk to them,,there will be lots of people like you ,just observe first before talking to anyone..be sure to have a friendly face on
2006-08-12 09:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by saturnstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took a good first step, realizing your limitations. Pretend you're in a play and play the pary of the happy popular girl
2006-08-12 09:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋