It was my first experience of what it's like to lose someone. I can't cope with that final goodbye other people have died since. I'm never going to see them again. Thing is I wasn't that close to them. How will I cope when it's my mum, or maybe my bestest friend. How do people go on because at 25 I think it would destroy me.
2006-08-12 09:38:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
He lived to a good old age, and anyway we all die. If no one died life would be completely boring and probably ill. Just remember your grandad and tell people about him, its a good way to keep them close
2006-08-12 09:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul, I lost my dad in 1977, he was 45, and I was 16. I lost my mom in 2002, she was 64 and I was 41. Death is apart of life. There is nothing on this earth that lasts forever. Losing someone you love is never easy. There are times I wish my folks were still here to be with me, and I still cry. Just try to remember that their memory lives on in you. Remember the good times. Remember the joy. Remember the love. I am sure your grandfather would not want you to be so sad. And I know that your mum wouldn't either when the time comes. Life does go on. It's can be hard sometimes, but you will be able to make it. I'll be praying for you.
2006-08-12 10:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by MamaSunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no answer for this very difficult question. Indeed, this question is more difficult than any other one I have answered yet.
I could try to explain it from a religious point of view and say: "Life and death belongs to each other". However, I know it will not be an answer for you if you do not believe in God or anything else.
I could try to explain it from a biological point of view and say: "People die when they grow too old and the heart stops beating." However such an answer might sound too harsh for you.
So, all I can say is: Remember your granddad as you want to remember him or as he wants you to remember him. However, you should not be sad about his death for eternity but start caring for yourself and your family. Just live your life as you have been doing so far. Someday, at a high age, you will probably find the (your) right answer to this question. Unfortunately, I am not the right person to answer it.
I am sorry.
2006-08-12 10:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had it happen 3 times in my life! My dad, my brother {younger} and my husband! You know what? I've learned to appreciate life a whole lot more! That I know {life} is a gift and it can be taken away at any time , when we least expect it! Make the "most" out of every day and let the people around you know that you love them! Try do do something "good" every day! I just go on and I miss these people dearly, I love life to much to give up and believe me there's so much nmore to live for! Believe me you'll get by! They may be gone but in my heart they'll never be forgotten!
2006-08-12 10:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid it is all part of life's rich tapestry that we must say goodbye to the ones we love. It will hurt , I cant tell you it will be easy , I wished I could . All I can say is from personal experience is that you will cope with it . I always remember the good times I shared with the person who has gone and find this helps . Thinking about it now will not help , just get on with your life .
2006-08-12 09:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bill L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 6, my cousin was the same age as me. She had many problems with her heart and lungs, and she didn't make it to her 7th birthday. I went to a church school with her, and my class sang in her funeral. Of course I didn't quite understand it, but now I wonder what she would have grown up to be like. It is very hard and to this day I cannot hear the song "Jesus Loves Me" without crying. Just remember they are watching over you.
I also never really knew my Grandpa. He died when i was a baby because he also had a few heart problems. I wish I could have known him, because I have heard so many stories from my family about him.
Do not worry, they are still with you.
2006-08-12 09:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a diffucult part of life and sadly an unavoidable one. Often people who are scared of losing loved ones are scared of death themselves. And as hard as it seems when you picture it, well we all lose and eventually we all learn to move forward and for some it takesm ore time than others. Make the most of the time you have with the people you love while they are here. Having regrets makes dealing with the death of someone even worse.
2006-08-12 09:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by serpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the young death I have a problem with. He is in the heavens with god. He no longer as pain and all is good. Time is nothing to him and he knows soon he will see his loved ones. So don't worry, be happy. The bible says cry at birth and rejoice at death and if we are right than that is true. Living is hard death is easy. Live a good life for him. Make it a life's goal to make him proud of your accomplishments. :-)
2006-08-12 10:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u really get over the death of a loved one. my dad died suddenly and i never got to tell him just how much i loved him and that hurt me so much. that was back in 1999 and i think about him on a daily basis still to this day!!! it was also my first experience of losing a real close family member. think of the good times u've had and smile!!!! happy memories will help u get over your sad loss. take care. :-)
oh, and i do believe we will see our loved ones when we move onto the next life too!! god bless. x
2006-08-12 09:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by little_hen_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say think of the good times and not the time missed out or whatever because in 2003 my younger borther died and i was reall close to him but knowing him he would have wanted me to move on i was only 12 at the time. but it is hard but the thing is you also have to think about how they lived a long full life and stuff
2006-08-12 09:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by ruberduckyyourthe1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋