How old were you when you started to try to get pregnant? I just turned 25 and my husband is 24(we have been together for 7 years and married for 3). We feel pressure from both families and our "clocks" are ticking. But like many people we are not financially ok. People say not to wait for money b/c it may never be ok. I just got done with school and have financial obligations from that. we live in an apartment, but we know it wont be forever. alot of people say we are young but we want to be young parents.
2006-08-12 09:32:05 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I had my first baby at 20 my second at 22 and my third at 24. I am now 27 and I dont think that if I waited for all those things I would have had kids. I was in nursing school and graduated 7mos pregnant with my 3rd baby. the next yr we moved into our 1st house (the MTV crib as my family calls it). It kinda all happened together. I didnt wait for one thing to happen before I did something else. But you have to do what works for you two. Screw what everyone else thinks. My mom thought we shouldn't have had kids until I did all the monetary things but it all works out fine. have faith!
2006-08-12 09:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by nimopiba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get four legged babies for the time being, at least until you've settled you financial obligations halfway, you can always refinance your debts later on.
For now, you've worked hard to get through school, and now you're both trying to establish your careers. Just give the "relatives" the usual - typical excuses, for now enjoy each other and savor the love you share for each other, have some fun while you both are still young(ish).
Give it a few more years of loving each other, making memories. Just before you get into the initial thirty somethings, then is a good time to make babies, you'll still be young enough to be there for your kids and endure the trial of being a mommy and a daddy,... Only you'll be cool parents not old fuddy-duddy-can't keep up with the kids, kinda parents. You'll be more patient and understanding and with a little luck - you can give your kids a hard time with giving you some grand kids.
And the whole soap opera goes into re-runs, the cycles start all over.... but this time it will be on your terms.
Have fun - enjoy your lives and good luck!!!
2006-08-12 16:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the right time when YOU and your PARTNER are ready, not when everyone else is ready for you to have children. I started having babies at age 17 and had a set of twins when I was 39. I am still a young parent in my book, I've just grown more parent savey with experience over the years. The older I got, the more patience I had with my children. Don't let people dictate to you when it's time for you to start a family, once you start, you are in the game the rest of your life. Parenting doesn't stop when they turn 18, it last forever.
2006-08-12 16:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 20 and i have a 9 month old and i still sometimes wish i would have waited a couple of years but its such a joy to watch her grow up. I think you are at the perfect age because when you kids decide to move out you wont be too old and you will still be young enough to play and chase them around the house. If I was you I would get cracking and have some kids. They are the best thing you could ever do.no joke.
2006-08-12 17:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the folks saying you'll never be financially able are kinda right, but don't be forced into something you aren't really ready for..give it time..when feels right, that is when you do it..even a few more years are going to make you young parents by todays standards..good luck
2006-08-12 16:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Selena D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it when you are ready. My first was at 19, 2nd was at 24, and my 3rd was at age 27. It just depends on when you are ready. Tell your family to be patient. There are women in their 40s having children. Your clock isn't ticking.
2006-08-12 16:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We waited 11 yrs. We are soo glad we did. We were not mature enough to deal with marriage and a child before then. If you wait until you are financially stable enough to have children. You'll never have children. If you are responsible enough to ask this question...you'll know when, both of you will.
2006-08-12 18:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by R S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your too young. Im 21 and my husband is 1 almost 22. i started trying at 19.
2006-08-12 20:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you are financially secure and make sure both you and your partner/husband are ready to take on such a dramatic change mentally and physically.
2006-08-12 16:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by helenh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If babies were planned, no one would ever have one. Do it when you are ready, you will know.
2006-08-12 16:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋