His wife visites him once or twice a year. Am I wrong to keep seeing him?
2006-08-12 09:27:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kiddo, you are wife number 2! The “other” woman! You think he tells her of YOU when he goes back to see his wife?
After 16 years of being married, they have a special bond. They might have grown up together and share many things in life. He probably has kids with her.
Do you think you are so undesirable as to not deserve a single man? What a dilemma you are in! Please, look to someone who is honest and available for your emotional needs.
Best of luck! I wish nothing but love for you!
2006-08-12 09:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on what you want out of it and why he is still married to a woman that he hasn't lived with for 16 years and why he still sees her a couple of times a year. This is a truly screwed up situation and the problem is that it takes really screwed up people to be involved in truly screwed up situations. I wouldn't take this relationship too seriously until this is settled once and for all. What are you expected to do when the wife comes to visit, disappear in to the woodwork until she goes back to mexico? You can't have any kind of real relationship with him until something changes. Also, how does she see their relationship? Does she consider them truly married?
2006-08-12 09:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not tell him that if he really wants a relationship with you, that he needs to get a real divorce. He is still legally married - which means that your relationship can only go so far, and it is morally wrong to date a married man. If he and his wife are seperated, why does she still visit him?
If he isn't willing to get a divorce then there is still something there between him and his wife. You should probably talk to him, but if he isn't willing to get a divorce then just understand and move on.
2006-08-12 09:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are still married so he is obviously never going to divorce her. You will always just be "the other woman" and nothing more. You are better than that so start telling yourself that. Let go, move on and find someone more deserving. You deserve to be happy and that's not going to happen with a married man. The right guy is out there but as long as you chain yourself to this guy you'll never find him.
2006-08-12 10:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this guy has his cake and is eating it too. If he's visiting her a couple times a year they are only separated by miles not legally. He's not going to divorce her. You're just his "bit on the side". Wake up! You're letting him take advantage of you. Drop him and get on with your life.
2006-08-12 09:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if they are separated why does she visit once or twice a year ? Does she know about you ? Are you banned from his place when she comes ? Of course its wrong.
2006-08-12 09:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong. It's called Adultery..You are crazy to believe his Lie that they are "Separated"..She still visits him--hello!!
Well, what goes around, comes around, so dont be shocked when after you get married--your husband cheats on YOU with a Cute Young Thing..You wont be young forever honey..I'm 29 and I already know that one.
2006-08-12 09:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is still married, yes it's wrong to see him. Why isn't he divorced yet, I mean 16 years is a long time.
2006-08-12 11:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are able to ask him why after 2 years of separation he has no longer filed for a divorce. He needs to marry you, howdy that sounds incredible yet back has he made any steps to getting a divorce? till now you get added in touch with this guy confirm he relatively needs to section from his spouse.
2016-11-04 11:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so, so wrong. He's separated but his "ex" still visits him a couple of times a year. Oh yeah!, sounds like you've got yourself a real winner.
2006-08-12 09:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Goddess Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋