I've been married for 11 years and the pe*is is the same along side the positions. There are other guys I wanna try in that way and I sometimes dream of how it would be with them. I am sorry and embarrased but I would like to try many at the same time or even have a train pulled on me. my husband wants to please me with a 3some but I'm not sure if that will back fire, in the long run.
2006-08-12 09:09:02 · 22 answers · asked by dori_619 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fantasizing about things is perfectly normal. Actually doing these things might cause you problems in your marriage. Think seriously about this before you act on this.
2006-08-12 09:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sabina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to have the threesome you should make sure you and your husband talk it out ahead of time, making sure to cover all the different angles of the situation so you can avoid a problem arising in the future. Make sure you're open and honest about what you are each hoping to get out of this and go as far as to talk about how the whole thing will play out--from selecting the right person to the almost play-by-play of the actual threesome and then discuss how you will carry on afterwards. Will this person be someone random, or will you still maintain communication with him/her? The third person will also need to be included in some sort of ground rules. I think planning it out well will be the best way to avoid trouble in the future. As for fantasizing about someone else while the two of you are intimate, if it's only in your mind, what he doesn't know won't hurt him. As long as you're not running around on your husband, I think you're ok. If we're being honest with ourselves, most men do that sort of thing all the time, and while women aren't as quick to admit it, they do it too. As long as you're upfront with your husband about the things you want to try, I think they should work out. Its when you're deceitful that you might run into problems. So don't let nervousness and embarrassment get the best of you. Just be honest with him and yall should be able to work it out. Good Luck!
2006-08-12 16:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of a marriage surviving a 3some is very small, so unless you don't really care about losing your marriage, or if it's worth the risk, then do the 3some. Otherwise, I would advise against it.
Fantasizing about other people is probably healthy, especially if it helps curb your thoughts about cheating on your husband.
Your other option is to cheat which really wouldn't be wise.
2006-08-12 16:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a normal fantasy, but be aware for various reasons that relationships don't always survive threesomes and other group activity. Jealousy and guilt follows quite often. Some stray behind their partners back. For most it is better left a fantasy. If you think your marriage is strong enough, and you make some rules and follow them, then go ahead and have fun. Just remember to separate love and lust.
2006-08-12 16:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 3some your husband wants involves him and 2 women.
As far as the thinking about other guys thing, just don't scream out THEIR names! He is better off not knowing.
2006-08-13 21:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by nick_1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with different fantasies but just let them be fantasies. It can ruin your relationship and bond you have as husband and wife. Even if you did try them you might find that your fantasy was much better then real life. It could start jelousy issues between each other.
2006-08-12 16:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please ask yourself what you feel if your husband think of some girl while your having sex with him.I think you will not accept to be a second woman in his life.You create the problem and you must solve it by asking your husband to doing many position during your lovely time.And you will satisfy your self not by doing some position but by support your love.
2006-08-12 16:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by abotraka777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants a threesome it will back fire and it is wrong to think of other men while ******* your hubby do you really even love him if its true love then express that you want to change things try just loving on each other and work from there you put yourself in differant positions and tell him to **** you
2006-08-12 16:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by lostpuppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, not after being married for 11 years. I think it is healthy to think about other guys while with your beau, as long as you don't act on it
2006-08-12 16:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to papa and I will have you eating out of my pants in no time. And yes a 3sm Will be in the cards. If you want more I can arrange that. You want hubby to watch, OK.
2006-08-12 16:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋