How do you deal with death? Is anyone else scared? I'm really terrified about dying and getting old.?

Question

I'm 25 now and i'm really fit. I can cycle 120 miles in a day. Run 10 mile strait off no problem. Deep down I know that this isn't always going to be the case. I know that by the time i'm 35 i will have slowed slightly. Scary thing is that's called age. It's just the early stages of a process that is going to proberbly leave me in a nursing home if im lucky. Eventually i won't be able to run cycle or do anything. Then i'll have to watch young people doing what I used to be able to do wishing I could take part. I don't want to die. I'm upset that this lifebdoesn't go on forever. I wish it did.

Answer 1

Sorry but life is a sexually transmitted universally fatal condition.

As you get older you find other things are at least as much fun as being young and fit...... watching the young fit things for instance!!!!!

Answer 2

Well, you've had so many interesting answers, that you hardly need another one! I just wanted to say that nearly everyone goes through a stage in life where they become aware of the inevitability of death, and have to come to terms with that. You seem to be especially worried about growing old, so let me reassure you that as you get older your tastes and interests change, and you adjust to that. Other things become more important to you than sport or super fitness. Don't worry about this yet - you have many, many years ahead before you even notice that you've slowed down a bit. Now that I am nearly 60 I probably enjoy life more than I have ever done - I've retired from work, and can enjoy all the hobbies and activities I've always lacked the time to do. You too have lots to look forward to - so put thoughts of growing old and dying way at the back of your mind and enjoy life!

Answer 3

First of all you are very young. but you are right. some day we all have to face death. yes everyone.
don't worry about death though, because you will never know when it actually happens. death is the same thing as what it was like before you were born. do you remember that? no of course not. so it does not matter if you die in 2 mins from now or when you reach 100. but I understand your feelings. I myself don't want to live as soon as I cannot be completely independent. I would rather die young with dignity and still able to do what ever i like, then to live old and decrepit. and dependent on others to care for me.so enjoy every day and take advantage and appreciate you 120 mile bike rides as Long as you can.

Answer 4

brian h has really hit the nail on the head. The younger you are the more scared you are of death. I am now 63 & have found my views & feelings concerning death are much less fearful than when I was a teenager. The acceptence of the inevitable is a part of growing older, believe me. Do please try not to spend precious moments thinking of such things. Live for the day & fill it with as much pleasure as you can. The present time is what is important, the precious present, not the past nor the future.
Stay well, be happy and bless you my dear.

Answer 5

Life and death are the same thing. There is no easy or definitive answer to your question. It is just the way it is and there is nothing we can do about it.

What I think is that death gives life a meaning. It is the fact that we are going to die that pushes us forward to reach our dreams. The old has to die for the young to grow.

But we are not just social creatures, we are conscious of our existence, we have a social and a private existence and I think this implies the existence of a soul. The question is, is this soul eternal? But this leads to another question, what is eternal? Time is but a convention, is one variable amongst many. Physics has demonstrated the arbitrariety of this convention.

The perception of time is relative. Who knows, maybe there is an eternity and we reach it the day we day, but it is a parallel eternity. Who knows??

The only thing I can say is that it is good to have your thoughts. It implies responsability and a true love for life.

It will make you enjoy life in any situation. Love life, love!!!!

Answer 6

Everyone fears death to a varying extent. Death is unique because there is absolutely nothing one can do to avoid it. If you have any other problem in life, there are things you can do to either remove or reduce the problem. With death, it can hit you at any moment, in any way.

I would suggest that the human fear of death is what drivespeople to the security blanket known as religon. We all hope there is something more than this life but deep down, the lack of evidence surely points otherwise. However few of us really want this to be the case so we often turn to religion.

Answer 7

I empathise with your fears. The best thing i found that helps me mediate my anxiety is trying to realise that death is merely another part of a greater cycle that we take part in. A bit like winter. Death is a transformation and if we all knew what that meant, we'd be queuing up to die. There is such a thing as immortality and many people have gine in search of it, it usually involves a lot of hard work and faith and of course, no-one recently has figured out how to carry on existing on this earthy realm for more than hundred years of so, but there are references to people who lived forever in many ancient traditions. Try Daoism for one. There is a process of alchemy that is supposed to teach one the lessons of immortality and i believe if you read into these things, you will start to see that life, is also just one part of the cycle, death is another. Just like the wheels on your bike, or the shape of the eart, the trajectory of the plaents, the movement of air and blood through your body, everything goes round in circles and everything returns to its source, why is it so hard to believe that human existence and life, don't do the same. Death will be glorious and as you age, you'll probably delight in the sight of youngsters displaying their raucous energy, and you will be wise and know that they too, will come full circle and sit with your eyes and thoughts upon the world.

I hope you discover that immortality is possible, even for a moment.

Answer 8

Being old isn't so bad. Take it from somebody who knows. You can voice opinions that wouldn't be acceptable made by younger people, probably something to do with age and wisdom.
As far as death is concerned, it's the only thing in life that is inevitable. As you get older you become more resigned to this and realise it would be terrible to live forever.
Nobody has come back and complained about been dead, yet, so it can't be that bad.

Answer 9

look around at the older folks and realize that the gift of life comes with its down falls as well as it's high points. they feel like you project yourself to feel in a few years.

1. you have your health. you can walk ...you have eyesight... you eat 3 meals a day .

2. you don't suffer from a disease thats cure is low cost but unattainable.

3. you go to the gym so obviously you work or have some sort of income.

4. you drive a car and can go some where to buy all kinds of great stuff that third world country people will never ever see in their life.


I could sit here and go on and on and on.... but the unfortunate point that I am getting at is for you not to feel sorry for yourself, but realize what a great life you have and what a tragic life other people have. Like the old saying goes "Count your Blessings"

Answer 10

We really don't know, what is going to happen after death and therefor we should not be afraid. Passing on is a blessing to very ill people. When the time comes we are all going to be ready, because it's natural. We are born to die. However, don't be thinking about what's going to happen tommorrow. Nobody knows for sure. Enjoy the "present" because its a gift. Have fun and live your life to the fullest with no regrets.

Answer 11

death is a fundamental part of life. Without death, we wouldn't bother to live properly. Look after yourself and don't be upset that you only get the years you get. Taking more would be selfish.

plus...

i only really started to live when i hit 28. Most of the years before that were wasted, taken from me by circumstance. I could weep for the past that's lost, but it's lost, so why bother? I sense that you at least got something out of your youth. If I can't weep for what's lost, I don't think you should weep for what isn't.