2006-08-12 09:02:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to her, admit what you did, and tell her how sorry you are. Talk to her from your heart, explain why you did it, answer any questions she has. Tell her you are willing to do anything to make it work. You should also suggest marriage counseling for the both of you - to help work things out.
You can get your wife back, but she has to be willing to work on the marriage as much as you are. If she isn't willing you can't really blame her, because you were the one who screwed things up.
2006-08-12 09:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, as I told you before you blew it. Do her a favor and let her go so she can find a real man, if you loved her thats what you would do because she deserves better than a screw up like you. She has given you too many chances and you have blown it every single time, she has no reason to think you won't blow it again, and neither do you. Can you prove you won't? Can you even say and really mean it? No you can't, if you could it would have been true all the other times you said it. Move on and grow up.
2006-08-12 16:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you cheat in the first place? Think you wouldnt get caught? Was it something that "just happened"? It will depend on her if she can forgive you. Dont pressure her, give her time. Dont over explain anything, tell her the truth and let her digest it. Give her some space to think. This is a total betrayal of trust. She may be willing to forgive, she may not. Suggest marriage counceling. Good luck.
2006-08-12 16:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by SilverWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has left you and knows that you are a cheating, lying adulterous man, then she will never come back to you. Especially if she is young. Too Late, she should run for the hills and in due time she will hopefully find an honest, caring man who has more activity in his brains then he does in his pants. You have failed her and you have more activity in your privates then you do in your cranial area. So tooooooooooooooo Bad !!! Don't even try to get her back. Just hope there is no children envolved.
2006-08-12 16:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question only she can answer. If she doesn't appear to want to talk to you, or even consider getting back with you the best you can do is put yourself into therapy. Obviously you screwed up. The only way you're not going to repeat this behavior with her , ( if she gives you another chance) or with someone else down the road is to find out why you self sabotage yourself and the meaningful relationships in your life.
2006-08-12 23:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to. Some things aren't fixed by saying "I'm sorry" Especially if she found out about the affair, rather than you ended it, and confessed your betrayal. It's the old story about Humpty Dumpty. So, perhaps you can learn a lesson from this. The grass ISN'T greener, and No, you can't have your cake, and eat it too.
2006-08-12 17:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best answer may lay in the women of her family. Her sister, mother, aunt etc. Talk with them. They know everything that happened and they know your wife's attitude. Other than that, I don't know. A man views sex as a pleasurable pastime or sport. A woman views it as her life. It's that important to her. Good luck. By the way. Was she worth the price you are now paying?
Vaya con DIOS
2006-08-12 16:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Even if she took you back you'd be paying for it the rest of you're life. And if you weren't paying for it she'd be holding it in and resenting you for it and never fully trusting you.... why would you want to put yourself in a position like that? Besides it's your fault for cheating, accept that you make a good thing bad and that it will never be as good as it was again.
2006-08-12 16:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet your tired of hearing this but forget it. even it she did come back to you the same demons that drove you to betray her will rise and you will break her heart again. my ex husband did that very same thing to me when i was dumb enough to say i do a second time. the best gift you can give your wife is her freedom and the chance to find true happiness
2006-08-16 18:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by katinalln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone else stated in their answer to your previous question, you are a bonehead. You have completely destroyed one of the most essential things in a marriage - trust. If she will even talk to you, she is the only one that can really answer your question. You are the only one who knows if you will really never do it again so be honest with yourself first.
2006-08-12 16:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋