I cheated on my wife and now she is moving away...?

Question

I cheated on my wife several months ago and she found out. She is a very rational and smart woman and has always given me a chance to make up for my mistakes. She kicked me out, won't talk to me, and I've heard she wants to move away from me. Why is she doing this?

Answer 1

she is hurt and betrayed. you, unfortunately, are the cause

Answer 2

You're right...she is a VERY smart and rational woman for finally leaving you! Why is she doing this? I could think of a bunch of reasons. First and most obvious is that you hurt her one too many times. Secondly, she can't trust you anymore because you lied to her. Third, she probably knows you won't change your philandering ways, and based on your history, you haven't. Last but not least...she has too much self respect to let you continue to disrespect and walk all over her. Yes, she's a very smart woman indeed! We need more women like her in this world.

If you need a bunch of strangers on this board to tell you this then you really have no clue. You need some growing up to do before you can even fathom what the word "commitment" really means.

Answer 3

Agreed--she's very hurt and she feels betrayed. Just because she's rational every other time doesn't mean she will be here. And believe it or not, she IS acting very rationally right now. She has every right to feel exactly the way she feels and to do whatever she needs to do to heal her heart. Betrayal is a huge thing, honey. You can't expect her to just go, "oh well, no big deal". It's not like you just forgot to take the trash out. You slept with another woman after promising your wife your eternal fidelity. It's going to take more than "I'm sorry".

Answer 4

Ummm,,,,,could it be because she has always given you chance after chance to make up for your mistakes and perhaps this one was the last straw for her. You went overboard in thinking she would stick around and let you get away with cheating on her. You hurt her really badly and the saying is, "once a cheater always a cheater." As you said though is is a smart woman!

Answer 5

you say she is a smart and rational person.......
and this is the choice a smart and rational person would make
sorry to say this.....but it is....
by cheating on her, you have showed her NO respect at all.......
and to a smart and rational person, respect and trust are both very important things to have and maintain in a relationship....
maybe next time you meet someone and get married, you wont make the same mistakes that you have made with her.....
you can only forgive so many things in life, and yet you took HER life into YOUR hands when you made the irrational choice to sleep with someone else........and I am sure she would tell you that herself.......
she is not moving away to punish you.......she is moving away to start HER life over. To get over and deal with what you have done to her. You have no clue how much that actually hurts a person.....emotionally and mentally and how long it takes to get over that.....
because at first you blame yourself for the other straying and then you realize you didnt stick his penis in that girl and make him do it........
Accept her choice and her decision and like i said, next time, dont do that to someone.........

Answer 6

LMAO, you are kidding right? If you were half way smart you would have realized that she forgave you for a screw up or two and you should have considered yourself lucky for a second chance and NOT screwed up anymore. Instead you just saw it as 'I can do anything I want and she'll forgive me'. Get it? She left you because it became clear that you were never going to grow up and be the man she wanted to be with, she would just spend her life forgiving your stupid mistakes. She gave you a second chance and you blew it, as most men do! You should have seen the chance as a gift and treated it as such, instead of seeing it as a weakness. Guess you were wrong huh? I hope she never speaks to you again, you don't deserve it. Best you can hope for is to learn a lesson from this, next time you find someone who is willing to care about you DON'T blow it!!

Answer 7

believe me she is a very intelligent woman to leave your a** I filed for divorce 3 months ago because the same bull**** that I took from my STBX! Men like you never change we women give you guys lots of chances but always hurt us in the end and you know something? Sooner or later we always find out about the cheating I hope my husband and you get what you deserve with your whores, youll see thta there not worth it and they will do the same to you! GOOOD LUUUCK!

Answer 8

Ok many people who answer this question are going to tell you that you are getting what you DESERVE,but your wife is hurting but at the same time she feels that she cannot trust you because you are the Man whose supposed to love her no matter what and for some reason which you didn't state you chose to make a bad choice so you broke the VOWS that both you and your wife took try going to her again humbly,that's if you are truly sincere about saving your marriage otherwise just give her,her space.

Answer 9

Maybe she needs to get away in order to feel responsible for her own life and her own happiness. so many times women feel that they're happiness comes from their mate. when they need to find happiness in themselves. Your wife feels hurt and betrayed for sure but not all marriages fail after one person has cheated. Try to understand her need to be self reliant and to have the space to sort things out on her own, be supportive of her decision or you will definitly close any doors that might open later for a second chance. Examine your own motives for the affair and work on improving yourself. You're not the only person who ever cheated and you're only human, but you need to learn from this experience and ask yourself if you want to change, if you do- you can but, if you honestly don't want to stop sleeping around - you need to move on without her. Unfortunatly you have to live by whatever she finally decides. We all fall short of perfection - who's to say what sin should outweigh another. Some just seem to cause us more grief. Sorry about your marriage - good luck to both of you.

Answer 10

I suppose it is time to live with your mistakes and actually learn your lessons the hard way. Every action has a reaction and you have taken your Wife for granted or the last time. Did you not think of the consequences prior to your selfishness?

Answer 11

Good for her. She should have done this along time ago. Men think that they could cheat on their wives or girlfriends and think that they could get away with this. Well think again!! Some of us women are sick of it and it's about time we do something about it. You should have thought about it before you cheated on her. You hurt her for the last time and she's tired of it. Maybe she wants to move on with her life. Good luck without her!!!