Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do???
2006-08-12 08:32:53 · 23 answers · asked by Truthordarelover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Will people quit tellin me I can still talk to her??? Even if I do talk to her she won't talk back.
2006-08-12 08:51:00 · update #1
First of all, I'm very sorry for your lost. It's difficult losing someone so close to you at a young age. During those teenage years, girls usually look up to a close, older female figure. I think you're missing your mom more now because there isn't anyone in her place.
If you have an older sister that you admire, that'd be an ideal person for your role model. Other close relatives... aunts, cousins..etc...
Good luck!
2006-08-12 08:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by KaT 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your mom. It's really unfortunate to lose a parent.
Your a teenager so you have all the hormones going crazy inside of you now but you might also miss your mom because this is the stage in your life where you need a motherly influence because your going through a lot of changes and unfortunatly she's not with you physically. It's alright to miss her, there's no problem with that. You can still talk to her because she's in heaven. God Bless you.
2006-08-12 08:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry. I'm 13. I believe that between the ages of 6 and 18 are the years when a girl needs her mother the most. I really don't know what you're going through, seeing as I've never experienced it. Sorry I couldn't help. Pray to God and talk to your mother as if she's in heaven waiting for you. It will probably make you feel better.
Again, I am sorry for your terrible loss.
2006-08-12 08:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experence cuz my mom passed away last year & i was 13 then. I think its because you just miss her you want to know what she was like. When your 8 you dont really have that friendship/mother thing with your mom. Its just that she is always there for you. But when you become a teenager you are always asking your mom qustions about how she was when she was a kid and different qustions. Its ok for everything to remind you of her because it means you care that she is gone. Just stay strong! I dont mean dont cry because in cases like this it is ok to cry. Your mom is watching down on you now. She seeing wat a wonderful teenager you have become.
Sorry to hear bout your mother thou
2006-08-12 08:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It reminds you of your mom and that just shows how much you miss your mom you should still try to get through life and live on but never stop thinking about you mom that will just show how much you care about your mom and your family
2006-08-12 09:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I didn't have to deal with anything like that but sense you were so young you never got to know your mother as a woman. If possible, you need to spend time with a grandma or aunt to tell you more about how great she was as a woman. It's not the "motherness" you need, its to know who she was.
It's not easy to ask a father about. So the next time you can, take advantage of the woman in your family and learn about her!
2006-08-12 08:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you grow older things remind you of her simply because you are starting to go through parts of life in which a mother is needed. Try talking to a friends mother that your trust, a teacher or school counselor. talking helps with alot of things.
2006-08-12 08:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by tcb_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good psychologist would tell u that yr traumatised.u need to find a way to get ovet the trauma by first finding it, dealing with it, crying about it. even though u were young, the brain processes all emotions and abscences. u knew what was happening. try to find an EMDR counsellor, it will help u fast and effectively. don't let it grow, get over with it now that yr young.
2006-08-12 08:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for you. I can relate to how you feel. My dad lost his first wife when it was 14 years ago. my dad remarried my current mom but now she has cancer too! its really sad and hard for me i cry alot like everynight. Last night i cryed alot also i feel really bad about your loss.
We have three options in life
A) to feel miserable the rest fo your life
B)Get help
C) put it behind you
I really suggest putting it behind you. I know its hard and people might think "this is your mother you cant jus put it behind you." well its the only option. I miss my mom just as much as you miss yours, Even tho i still have my mom i feel like im loosing her because she is so focused on getting better. Do you have anything your mom wrote to you like a birthday card or something. This is the card my mom wrote to me and i read it every night it helps me remember life isnt fair...but it always goes on
Dear Nikki,
Wow 13! I know this is hard
for you sweetheart but we will
all survive this, I especially so i can
annoy you even more than i already do
you are the most precious thing in my
life.
I Love You,
Mom
my mom wrote this letter to me she is going under treatment now she is doing really well but i will never forget my dads's first wife. i try to put it behind me and if she does die i will be so sad but i will move on.
Please if you want to talk to me email me Nqt0705@yahoo.com
2006-08-12 08:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because u r growing up without her,and that is ok.U loved her,and now she isn't there.Stop trying 2 4get about her,1day,go into ur room,and think about her,it is ok 2 cry.then jst be happy and proud of urself 4 being strong and just live life.But always be honerable 2 her and dont do anything she wudn;t want u 2 do
2006-08-12 08:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋