i got married to him before 2 years . he was often lying to me and made me to feel as if, i am an idiot. i understood him, but i didnt say about these things to my parents. i left him before one year for my first delivery to my parent's home(its our tradition), even at that times he gave me and my parents a lot of mental tortures. i believed tht he wouldl change if he saw his child. But nothing worked. he didnt even came to see us and spreads wrong news about me all around. now he has filled a restitution of conjugal rights against me. but i dont want to go with him until he accepts his mistakes and come for counseling. but i have the doubt whether it will work or not if i go to court. he is a very good actor and makes all ppl to believe him with his crocodile tears. wht shall i do now?
and very importnt point is , i dont want to divorce him. i want to pay him back wht he did to me. he spoiled my life. iam not in the country which takes remarriage as much easy&evn i dontlike
2006-08-12 08:13:27 · 5 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What really make you think he's going to change?
And pay him back for what he's done to you? MOVE ON! Why are you going to waste the rest of your life on revenge? You are going to spoil the rest of your life on that?! That's rediculous. Move on and make something good of what's left of your life.
2006-08-12 08:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never admit to his mistakes much less accept them. How many people have to tell you to get out of this relationship before you listen? I understand completely how much you want to pay him back. To do so takes an enormous amount of patience because you have to have perfect timing for it to turn out right. In the mean time start rebuilding your life. He has ruined the past but the future is now in your hands. Decide what you want for the rest of your life and get started. Verbal abusers hate to see their victims doing better than them. Showing him that you are confident and sure of yourself could be one of the best paybacks you could give him.
2006-08-12 08:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not recognize each of the set of circumstances, yet your husband sounds like a negative man or woman. i recognize what you advise once you communicate about men crying crocodile tears, so as that they could get human beings to sense sorry for them. in case you do not divorce him, you'll nonetheless be his spouse. besides the undeniable fact that, if he's like maximum men, he will change into drained of waiting for you to come back back to him, and then he will discover another woman he wish to marry. If that occurs and he really needs to marry his new woman, you could punish him with the help of no longer allowing him to have the divorce from you, till he delivers what you go with. All you want to do is confirm out what you go with, and then be affected man or woman till he's drained of waiting. reliable success~*
2016-11-24 21:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then figure out a way you can get even with him , but be careful
2006-08-12 08:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful - whatever you do. I wish you luck.
2006-08-12 08:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋